Breakup
Ive been in a long term relationship. He was my first boyfriend. But last week he told me that he was not happy anymore and he has someone new. I dont know what to do. I know he will not be happy with me anymore and thinking to move on and let him go but there are times I was thinking to win him back. To get back to him and told him what if I change the things he doesnt want about me will he came back to me again? Im really confused right now
@stayhappy158 the best thing to do is to cut contact off
@kitkat34567 I actually did. But do I move on and let go or shall I wait for him and get back with him
@stayhappy158 a ex is a ex for a reason i would move on find someone else
@stayhappy158
He clearly told you that he is not happy and had already move on. So waiting for him and giving yourself pain why?
Can understand when we love someone it hard to let them go. The hard fact is that we can't make someone love us back the way we feel for them.
Consider yourself a luck in a part you got someone who love you and you had good time. It did not last May be it was not meant too. Not your fault. Move on pls. You seem nice person and I think mr charming is on his way, just you need to keep your heart door open without old relationship baggage.
@Divorcsupport thank you. Actually I
@stayhappy158
Letting is hard and obviously you would miss her. Though you feel being alone would be better to forget her but i say when we r surrounded by people we r force to do thing which we may not do in alone and that make us think less. Yeah but can understand sometime it painful to manage emotions. Why we try to forget people and event which are painful. Thus it really help. Why can't we try to be at peace with the person and situation. It like accepting it ..It happened and few thing see meant to happen. think on it. Because this is no erase button in our mind. This is hard to do but I think it once we are at peace it no longer disturb us. Good you created this thread so whenever you feel your emotions are too much pls share with you don't let in your heart for long time. Take care.
@Divorcsupport hi thank you. Actually right now I
@stayhappy158
Thats nice. Take care.
@Divorcsupport Hi. Is it normal to feel numb during the process of moving on and letting go. Right now, seems like I dont feel anything.. not happy nor sad or anything else.. like I doesnt feel anything at all. No emotions
@stayhappy158 . i had that happen it sucks
@kitkat34567 really? So it is normal.. to feel this way.
@stayhappy158
Sometime we feel that it's normal.
It seem you tired mentally and gone through a lot recently. Take a break. Watch movie..so swimming.. Outing ..anything that can charge you up.soon you will be back .
@Divorcsupport is it ok to do the things that we used to do together or shall I stay ways from doing it so I will not be able to remember him.
@stayhappy158
Running away or avoiding night not work. Totally cut off still ok. Why don't you do what you could actually enjoy alone also. So if same activity you still will enjoy. May be you can go with friends. Why don't you go to parlour pamper yourself new hair style or relaxing massage.
@Divorcsupport that is why its hard for me to do things because almost all of it reminds me of him. I do not have people I can call friends that I can share what Ive been going through right now.
@stayhappy158
This is good place to vent out all our emotions and question or confusion. Some or other eill respond back.
See thinking not going because it will remind him than how it will work?
You can be at home all time. You have to face it if not today than later but you have to learn to face that. Maybe right now you r not in state to overcome it no issue take your time. Can try other thing at home but charge yourself in short i mean.
@Divorcsupport I am trying but it is really hard specially if the breakup is new
@stayhappy158
It tough phase no doubt. It will take time. But we r there for you to talk to listen. Take your time.
@stayhappy158 I feel the same, lost, numb, and the longer I go without her, the more I feel myself falling apart. I dont know how to live without her, I try everyday, but everything feels empty. I have no motivation or enthusiasm for anything anymore. Shes my first thought when I wake, my last before I sleep, and I even find myself dreaming about her at night. I know I have to let go and move on. I just dont know how to do so. Its been over a month since we split, and its getting harder, not easier as time goes on. I dont have any words of encouragement for you, Im trying to figure it out myself, but.. if nothing else, youre not alone, there are plenty of people here who understand at least somewhat what youre going through. I hope you find your way.
@Steve5562 that is exactly how I feel right now. I want to cry out loud but tears was no longer falling in my eyes. My heart is crying inside.