Breakup with girlfriend
My girlfriend broke up with me roughly 2 months ago because we would occasionally fight. We would argue over the smallest of things and would make-up almost immediately. She said that she couldn’t do it anymore and lost love for me. We were together for 2 years, and we loved each other. I told her that we could fix it and I would change but she said it was too late. Over the last two months I would message her and get very short responses of her telling me to move on. We didn’t have the best last conversation and now we pass each other without acknowledging one another, mainly her ignoring me. I truly care for her and have done so much to show her I care. I know we could fix this if I was given a chance. What should I do?
@adaptableTurtle408. you have to move on you can't make her stay or come back
I know but that’s easier said than done. I’m just not ready to move on...
@adaptableTurtle408 it takes time it won't happen over night for me it took 2 years
Fml.... okay, thank you for your help
@adaptableTurtle408 Hopefully it won't take you that long
@adaptableTurtle408 The probkem that you seem to have with moving on are twofolds. 1) you blame yourself and you wanted to change to fix things. Did you ever think that maybe SHE was picking fights on purpose to push you away? Have you ever watched videos about the anxious-avoidant trap? Its a common toxic relationship pattern where one invested partner blames himself for wanting closeness whike and avoidant partner runs away from intimacy and blames the other one for wanting it. I have it too. There's little that you can do to solve problems within this trap. 2) You keep seeing her. Everytime you do, tge wound reopens. Can you do something to limit contact for a while? Do you run into her on purpose? If so, don't, your break up pain will last longer.
I truly think we were both at fault, but mainly me. I was hard headed and didn’t accept her opinion. In terms of running into her, I do kinda plan to walk past her because I know her schedule in hopes of sparking a conversation. But I end up being the one getting hurt. I truly do care for her and wish she saw how much love I had for her to give it another chance. I have decided to not talk to her for a month or so to see how she reacts. In this month I will better myself to move on.
@adaptableTurtle408 Hopefully the next relationship won't end in disaster but it take's time I wouldn't worry about her since she is out of your life.
@adaptableTurtle408
Focus on yourself and your happiness. Remember to practise self-care. I hope you get better. 