Compulsive lying ruined my marriage
My wife was an amazing woman. Smart. Beautiful. An amazing mother. But for some reason all I did was lie. I made her feel crazy like what she thought was wrong. Every chance she gave me to come clean I just made up a new lie. I don't know why I did it. I loved her so fully that I didn't know where she ended and I began. I thought we were going to be that couple that died within minutes of each other after 60 years of marriage. My lies ruined my life and I don't know why I did it. Please anybody please help. If there's any chance to get her back one day I need to fix this. I need to stop unnecessarily lying. It's left me homeless. Wifeless. I barely get to see my kids now. Please anybody?
@plumLychee4124 I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Please know that there is a lot of support here. I have found a few wonderful one on one listeners, and I participate in the sharing circle.
You are not the only person who does this, regarding the lying, I am sure. I am not too familiar with the issue, but I did once know someone who compulsively lied; he just could not seem to help it. He was such a kind person, who simply had a flaw, like we all do.
I hope that things work out for the best for you. An issue like this might be best discussed to try to figure out the root of the problem, so that a solution might be found. I hope that you can be gentle with yourself.
It did we were almost back together despite everything. I got help we were rebuilding trust and then she changed her mind. Thought I was lying to her again. I even showed her proof I wasn't lying about anything. But it didn't matter. I'm broken all over again.
@plumLychee4124,
I am so sorry.
Sometimes too much happened, partner tries to go beyond but cannot. I lost my wife due to getting angry over and over. Old pains which she triggered by doing something stupid. I dealt with my anger, triggers, and they are gone. She knows. She still loves me deeply but too much damage was done for her.
All you can do is continue doing all hard work u did, for u.
Take care.