Confrontation is hard
Its been a bad couple months, seemingly for everyone I know. My husband and I got married 2 months ago. We had a great deal of bad luck and have yet to mail out our certificate though we have a year to do so. This last week we had good news about being able to move into a house. It was very promising but the landlord screwed us over. I already had most of our things packed and scheduled to transfer our utilities. We were beyond upset. My husband had also been acting a bit strange and I soon found out he was sexting an old friend of his, telling her how much he loved her, and fantasized about running away with her to Alaska. Tonight he asked me why I haven't mailed out our wedding certificate. I tell him we've just been so busy I forget about it. What I really want to say is "because you should be in Alaska with your soulmate (which is what he told her he felt she was)." He's accused me of cheating on him for years (and I never have nor wanted to) when in reality, he's been doing it since we've got together. It's not that I've ever forgiven him for it because I never could but I have kept giving him chances. I don't think I can give him another chance but I'm so passive I fear I might. The hardest part is telling him I know what's going on and I don't know what to do once I do. I feel so embarrassed and don't want anyone to know.
@BreeKasi
I am so sorry you're going through this. Your partner's accusations reflect his own actions and character, not yours. Do try to be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Imagine what you might say to a friend in the same situation. You're going through an extremely difficult relationship struggle, and only newly married! It is completely understandable that you feel the way you do.
Confrontation and communication go hand-in-hand. There's nothing wrong with taking some time to investigate your own feelings and boundaries on the topic of infidelity. I too, am a passive individual, but lying is my one deal-breaker. If there is no trust, there is no point- in my opinion. Figuring out how you feel about it first will empower you when you finally find the timing and the courage to sit down and tell him what you know. Never be afraid to advocate for yourself, or your needs. Continue to surround yourself with people that will love and support you during this difficult time. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
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@BreeKasi
Hey, seems like you certainly are going thru a lot! I agree with BlitheSun, confronting him might be a good idea, dear 
Stay strong!
Thank you. There just never seems to be a right moment and with the moving issue I haven't had the mental energy to do anything. I feel like I can barely muster up enough energy to deal with our toddler's breakdowns. I just want to vegitate for a day to let the heavy feelings run their course so I can focus.
@BreeKasi
Keep us updated. Do take some time for yourself. ♡