Divorce or not to
Hi there, i need help to make this decision. I m married for 4 yrs and with 2 kids. One is 4yrs old and other one is 6 months old. My husband doesn't like my family side. Last yr my brother needed help so i borrowed personal loan from bank and lend it to him, it like already 1 year, every month my brother pay the loan. I didnt let my hubby know as i know he wont agreed to tht. Recently he found out when we applied for housing loan. He started get so mad tht he didnt speak to me for a week and claim want to file divorce.
My reply to him, i want the kids.
His reply i can give u the kids but not the house and i won't give u any kids wealthfare.
Now my brother have clear off the personal loan, my hubby still mad on this. I asked him what he want, he said he want me to break my relationship with my family side. Of course i cant do tht i told him.
After 2 days, he said to me, i talk to u does not mean i forgive u, since u have lied to me, i cant trust you and u r not respecting me as husband. If hse loan approved, the house will only be under his name where loan still be 2 persons name.
I dont know what i should do, continue or end this.
I suppose the pivotal point should be whether you love your husband, placid? If you do, then it's worth trying to work things out, I would say..
that sounds to me like he is very controlling. do you feel he controls you in day to day life?
isolating you from your family and getting a loan where you have liability but no claim to the asset can be classed as financial abuse. you can always so say to the loan on the house you do not have to go along with it. you need to have a look at what you get out of this relarionship compared to what you put in and why you found that your only option was to lie about the loan to your brother