Ex coming back
Hi, My ex dumped me a month ago after 2 years together. We have been speaking every day since, not as much as when we were a couple but quite a lot. Fast forward to now, he wants to get back together but slowly. The thing is, I can’t stop thinking if he’s been with another girl within the month we’ve been apart. Of course he was single and he could do what he wanted but he’s said to me that he hasn’t been. There has been some indicators that he might not be telling the truth as he has lied a lot in the past. And I found a packet of something used during naughty time yesterday in his bathroom, but he said it’s his room mates. I’m just really confused as if he has been with other girls I wouldn’t get back with him. What should I do?
I think you need to really sit down and think about whether you’d want to be together with this man again because right now, it doesn’t seem like you have full confidence in him. If you get back together with those worries in your mind, chances are they’re going to cause issues when you get back together. I get what you mean about having worries that he’s been with another girl or girls during the time you were apart. Then again, you were both single at that time so neither one of you really has the say as to whether you should be seeing other people or not. So it really boils down to whether you would want to take him back even IF he’s been with other women and whether you can find it in yourself to trust him again. Sometimes, love alone is insufficient to make a relationship work again. You need to really reflect on whether the problem that led to the break has been solved or could be solved once you get back together. I’m sort of in a similar situation and it’s difficult but that’s what I’ve learnt and I hope it helps you too. All the best ❤️
