Feeling guilty and lost
Hi
I met love of my life she was exactly what I wanted but she had bad experinces in past like being raped. We had tje most wonderful time for a period but she said after a while that doesnt like to have relationship with me and I thought at first that she is just confused but for diferrent times she told me seriously she doesnt want to be with me.and I was compeletly heart broken.Ath the same time my ex-girlfrind pushed me to take back a left memento to her and then asked me to have sex for farewell and I did and that night my love called and finally she understood the story I told her of course.and since then we have had ups and downs she says she can never forgive me and forget. And now it has been 1 months that I havent seen her.we even dont chat. I feel I could have done much better.she was so right for me she was the right lady.
@Aidinsabali
Hi there,
It sounds like you've had an up and down time lately... meeting the love of your life, her confusion and previous traumas which as a consequence she pushes you away and so you felt rejected which caused you to seek the comfort of another. You mentioned that you were honest to the person that you love so dearly... that is great. Despite the consequences of being honest which you're experiencing now, it is good that you were honest.
Hopefully in time she will begin to understand your feelings behind the behaviour. Have you told her how you were feeling?
Lisa
@OceanCounselling yeah but she says I cant accept and all the time she sees me she says picture of you and my ex comes ti her. Wh have been together even had sex after that for six months and I thought she will be ok by passing of time but I think she was becoming ready to depart.
@Aidinsabali
Hi there, I really hear how much it pains you to lose someone that you truly connected with. It sounds like the issue is a multitude of things - lack of communication perhaps, personal traumas and scars. Sometimes losing someone does not necessarily mean losing them. It could mean taking a break from one another so that both parties can heal from their past. There are certain things that only one can deal with, and according to you, it sounds like your girl has a lot of difficult memories to handle. In such a circumstance, being in a relationship can be quite overwhelming and traumatic. And so, perhaps she just needs time and some space to figure out her confusion before being able to commit herself to someone else. Meanwhile, though, I know that it will be hard on you to feel like she is never coming back. So how does it sound like to just support her as a good friend for now until she is ready?