Heart broken
How do you learn how to trust someone after they have hurt you. I have been together with my husband for 9 years. We have a 10 month old, I have always said he is my best friend tell him everything etc. But yesterday I seen he had screen shot photos of women, even friends of mine in his phone his zoomed into photos of them and I know he had a private folder app on his phone for our secret photos so I never thought anything until I asked him last week why his putting my photos in another file, he said that app doesn't work so I'm like whatever. Now after when I seen yesterday I investigated and found out he has been using that app every day ! So it's working & I can't can't but think in my head that he has photos of random chick's in that app ! I felt so sick to my stomach I thought I was going to have a heart attack. I'm so heart broken that he would do that. He acts like he is not one to do things like that at all and tried to deny it when I caught him out. Then he called me and says I don't know why I did that I'm serious bla bla bla but I know there is more too it. It doesn't make sense why he doesn't know why he did that, that's just sick ! I don't feel like I can trust him ever again and I feel like I don't want to be near him. I told him I don't want to be with him anymore. I confronted him when he came home to open that app cos I know deep down there was a folder full of random women. But his smart and deleted them all. I seen he accessed it twice thrkigh out the day yesterday when he was at work. And he denies it. It's the lies that hurt me so much I don't think i can cope. I just don't have anyone to talk to about this and it's eating me alive. I just can't trust him anymore. Could you please tell me what would you do in this situation.
I’m so sorry your going through this. I don’t know what I would do. But if you decide to leave him, it’s better to leave him now when your baby is young versus older. Then again, maybe counseling could help for you both?
I think that leaving is very hard, so that's entirely up to you. I'm sending prayers that everything turns out well if you do leave. As for your child, it's much better to leave sooner than later, and I can speak from experience. My father was always terrible to my mother, and having to witness that at an age where I understood what things meant was very hard for me. I know it may seem like staying may be the best for your child, so they can have both parents, but it's quite the opposite. You're so strong for putting up with this, but please understand that you don't have to put up with him, it is sick. Please prioritize yourself :( sending lots of love and luck your way!
