He told me we are done...

Things have not been right in this marriage for years, I knew it then but had gotten so much in the habit of making excuses for him that I believed them myself. But now I know that as much as he has pointed the finger at me, he is the one that has been emotionally abusive and highly controlling. Very charasmatic and rationally manipulative. I feel relieved. It is going to be better for our child that she not see such a loveless marriage, and while I will have to co parent for now, I know that it will not be long before his many issues catch up to him and he will find a way to have less and less responsibility for her. I have goals in my education and my finances to pursue. Things that he has held me back from for too long. I may have gone in a caterpillar, but I am now ready to emerge a butterfly.

To anyone else going through something in your relationship that seems questionable, I hope that you find your inner strength and realize that you are better off alone than with someone that stresses you out and brings you down.