How do I know If I found the right person for me, and when will I find that?
So a few context, I dated this girl for about 6 months, and things went well for the first few months of our relationship. We were happy and all, but still there were a few arguments that we had. But still, I gave her all the love and effort that I can give to make sure that I treat her well, I gave her affection and all that. I was consistent with all my actions for her throughout the span of 6 months. I would even go to their house once every 2 weeks just so I can see her and her parents.
We ended our relationship because she saw a small conversation from my phone and thought that I was cheating. This "other" that I talked to was from an online chatting site that I went to back then because I was bored(this was during our relationship). My girl was sleeping and all so I kinda wanted to talk to some strangers and ask them what was up. And this "other" that I talked to asked for some advice and asked if I can help her, so I gave her my Telegram username. Once I gave her my Telegram username, she just asked me how my day was and after that we never really talked anymore. All of those thungs happened in just a day.
My girl then saw this small conversation and thought that I was entertaining another person, when all I did was help.
She had a past trauma with her first relationship and I feel like it affected our relationship, and it affected me. Duirng our relationship, she had this "phase" where she would remember the traumas and depressions that she had, she'd be distant around me and she'd be cold with her texts and chats. So I'm left wondering what went wrong, what I did to make this happen, and what to do. But even if that's the case, I endured and stayed because I still wanted even though it was hard. But when I made a mistake, she gave up and just left me.
Our relationship ended without her telling me what was her problem and all. I feel like it's so unfair because I wanted to endure the things that she has and accept her and her insecurities. But how come she left me when we had a misunderstanding?
I thought she loved me, but still, why didn't she stay with me and resolved all of our arguments?
I thought that I met the right person but, do I deserve this?
@sensitiveKite8663 It sounds like she's very deeply affected with what happened before. Why don't you try talking to her again and tell her you can explain things reasonably. You can also try sitting down with her and talking things out. It sounds like you deeply care about her. I hope you are doing better.
I really love her so much and I really thought that she does as well, but I guess that she wasn't able to fight with me to make our relationship work. I tried explaining things to her and all, but she's disappointed at me for what happened, and I don't blame her. I just tried accepting it and hope that all the tears that come out of my eyes would help ease the pain and longing that I feel.