How much do I take?
To tell you a bit about myself, I'm a female in my early 20s. Separating from my husband and have a one year old son. I've been seeing someone for the past 6 months who has constantly gone outside our relationship to find attention from other women. He would use dating websites and Craigslist ads. We have hashed it out multiple times and he has seemed to finally stop and make me his main priority. He is also divorced with a young child. I feel that staying with him is an insult to myself, because he has sought out attention while always having me around. I have helped him emotionally, mentally and financially in the past. I know it's a young relationship, but I don't know whether I should continue with him, seeing that he "cheated" in some ways. He and I have an amazing connection and there is very much love involved. Should I protect my heart and walk away? Or should I stay, now that I've seen improvement?
*Side note: he was "caught" multiple times before I finally saw improvement. I always found the information that he was hiding.
@courageousMelon6066
Hello. Not really an expert on these sort of things but well, as far as people go, if you see an improvement, a real improvement then there is hope something can be saved/gained.
As a man, perhaps being divorced hurt his masculinity/psyche so he's out looking for attention to shore up his insecurities (even though you're around. perhaps the more there are, the better he feels.) and maybe he's finally wrapped his head around monogamy (for lack of a better term to say that he's now focussed on you).
Establish some ground rules, tell him he's doing great but if he slips up again, you may no longer be so forgiving. Don't be all ultimatum-like cos if so, he just might try hiding instead of really resisting that particular "vice".
But in the end, you're the one in the relationship. its your feelings on the line, your effort, time, money, etc. You know him, so do you think he's really legit this time? Do you believe he's finally ready to work on just you?
All the best.