How to Know If Your Partner is ‘Quiet Quitting’ Your Relationship (Part 2: What to do about it)

Read Part 1: Identify the signs: here

“The quiet quitting happened unintentionally, but once I started feeling happy and bettering myself, I [began to] devote less time to the relationship,” she said. “I didn’t want it to end from my side, so I distanced myself from him thinking he would tire of me and leave. But by that time it had become a six-year relationship and we were both used to being in it. The fear of not finding a good, understanding partner made both of us drag out the relationship until we broke up for good.”

Kashyap cautioned that the reasons for quiet-quitting a relationship may not always be thought through and one can get influenced by the often unrealistic ideals of what a healthy relationship should look like, thanks to pop culture.

“Our life and our relationships don’t have to be exciting every single day. So, expecting returns and investment from our relationships every single day is not healthy,” he explained. “Even though, as human beings, we always do a cost-benefit analysis, we must realise that our partners are not products.”

He added that not a lot of people are having “hot sex” every day after three or four years into the relationship and that this should be normalised. However, if you’re aware of the reasons for the relationship not working out and are still doing nothing about it, then that’s on you.

Regardless of which side of the relationship you find yourself on, Dave suggested avoiding blame games. “Don’t point fingers and instead tell your partner that it’s happening to us and not me because there is no checklist for an ideal relationship,” she said. “Write down your expectations vs. reality, categorise your thoughts into feelings and facts, and introspect on what’s not working. Do you have proof and precedents to back your thoughts or are you imagining things?”

She added that our brains more easily adapt to the reality of someone passing away because there is closure in death. We struggle with letting go of someone who keeps us hanging on, as the hope of being able to one day sit down and work things out or return to the way things once were is still alive.

Source: https://www.vice.com/en/article/jgp9k3/relationships-dating-breaking-up-quiet-quitting-dumping

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