How to move on with the pain easily?

@lucasknowles

I think your friends mean well, however rushing to date to overcome pain never works.

You have to do a journey within yourself (sounds lame but is the way).

If you can travel , maybe treat yourself with hobbies you enjoy, or buy some new clothes. Basically spoil yourself. Also spend time socialising. The worst you can do right now is isolation. No one is supposed to suffer alone.

I also want to give my point of view (if that's ok) on your wife leaving. If she genuinly left because you can't give her a child, she wasn't meant to be in the first place. Many women don't wish children, and the ones that do are ok with adopting. Her excuse is just that, an excuse.

If you're loving and a good partner, remember that you deserve the exact same. Nothing less.

@lucasknowles,

I am sorry you are going through such a heartbreak!It's never easy to just let go and move on,especially if you have put a lot of yourself into the relationship.I know because my son's father cheated on me when we were still together.You think that you will never be joyful again,blame yourself for somebody else's mistakes but actually it's their choice and decision to cheat,it's not your fault.Trust me,I have been there,don't put the blame on you!The best thing to do in such a situation is just give yourself time to heal,no need to rush into a new relationship,just focus on self-love and self-care,these are basic things towards you becoming a healthy individual,then you will be able to attract other healthy people into your life.Start doing all these things you have always wanted to do but .ever had the time to do..Focus on enjoying life,pamper yourself - you deserve it just for the person you are.Try to go within your inner self to identify causes and effects in the way you relate to others in relationships,this will give you a clue as to what you need to work on so as not to repeat the same unhealthy pattern in the future.I hope this helps,take care and good luck! :)