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How to open up to women online that I am divorced and a father of two?

User Profile: imyourman
imyourman November 13th, 2017

Ive been divorced not too long and have two kids with me. Its been a couple of years since then but I feel like Im ready to get back into the game and find someone.

I dont think I have what it takes to find someone in person. I know that my age is beyond what women would find attractive. But a few of my friends convinced me to try online dating and while I was searching for some trusted and decent dating sites, I came across AFA

Im honestly rusty with everything. I absolutely dont know what to do and how to approach a woman online. I feel as though there are many key points I should mention in my personal information page, but Im lost.

If I do match with a woman from abroad, Im clueless as to how I can make a connection. How can I tell her about my past marriage and the fact that Im a father of two children? I hear that younger women dont find these things attractive. Im nervous at the thought of never finding the right woman.

I can easily say that having nobody to love you after a tough divorce is hard to deal with. I would like to open my doors again to love and maybe find a woman whos truly the one for me.

Its been difficult these past few years of being a single father and with my age advancing. I try to keep an open mind and to stay positive. I just really need some help with all this. Any kind of advice and some tips will greatly boost my confidence. Thank you so much in advance!

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User Profile: Gemgems
Gemgems November 13th, 2017

@imyourman

Hi :-)

I believe that if any person is worth been in a relationship with they will take you as they find you and accept you for who you are.

I mean if you are worried about announcing to them that you have two children and are divorced straight away then dont tell them from the off go, wait for a bit go on a date or two and just have fun but if you feel the woman is kind and genuine and you want to make a go of it then tell her.

Take youre time no matter what age you are or whats going on in youre personal life dont rush in to anything , make sure shes worth it and appreciate you for who you are and youre past.

Hope this helped a little, take care

User Profile: Scottiestyles
Scottiestyles March 23rd, 2018

@imyourman

Simley tell her. I am the same, sadly these days its very common. don't be embrassed about it

User Profile: creativeOak9590
creativeOak9590 March 24th, 2018

@imyourman

Plenty of women across many age ranges find older men attractive. Plenty of women also find single fathers attractive. Seeing a man being a good father to his children can be a huge turn-on for many women. (Just look at the entranced fandom fictional single fathers like Bard of Laketown in the Hobbit movies and Scott Lang from Ant-Man have manged to acquire, specially because they're single fathers.)

I think you should be open right from the start about your children. If possible, put it right there on your profile so everyone can see it. I think everyone deserves to know what they're getting into, but I also think it would help attract the women to you who are looking for someone just like you. Dishonesty helps no one in this case. smiley