I can't believe I will love again
Hello! Around 2 weeks ago I ended my relationship with my boyfriend of 2,5 years.We were in a LDR for the last 8 months. He was my first boyfriend. We loved each other so much. We still do, to be honest. We had a lot of issues, he destroyed my self-confidence in the first 6 months of it(he admitted to it), but I always believed we could work it out, that he would make it better. He stopped with the stuff he was doing those first few months (not cheating, but damaged me pretty good), but I just couldn't let it go. I thought he had to make it up to me in some way, that I deserved something from him... I never could trust him again, and I regret this a lot, because he changed a lot during our relationship, for me. We even broke up after our first year and a half together, but a month later got back together because he said he understood that he could never find anyone like me, so loving, so smart so funny, so perfect... He said he would do anything. For me that meant forever.
Even after all the changes we both went through, we weren't the right fit. I miss him like crazy, sometimes I want to ask him to get back together. He keeps saying that if we met at another time, we would be perfect for each other, we would have learned the hard lessons with other people and be able to be together without all of our issues.i feel the same way. I'm still hoping...
I can't believe I will ever love another person, look into another's eyes like that, ever fall for anyone. Will I...?
@Avalsis I am in a similar situation...my boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago with me because he leaves for law school in a few months and thinks if we keep dating he will keep falling in love and keep getting attached and he is too young to be with the woman he wants to be with forever (we are 23) and if we met when we were 30 he would be proposing...I know he still loves me and I still love him and I can't imagine ever being loved by someone the way he loved me...but I know thats the emotinal response not the logical one...you will love again...in a different way but you will
@umichgrad my ex also said he would be proposing if it was a few years later... Weird how people have so similar experiences yet always feel they are alone in theirs... Thanks for sharing. We will love again... I read a lot of articles on loving the second time around and they gave me some hope. Maybe you can try those too. :)
Love is a complicated emotions. It comes in all shapes and sizes. It can happen to anyone.
You cannot love without feeling pain. Its always a package. If you need to talk i am here. I cant promise to make you feel better but i want to helo you. I really do.
@Avalsis
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. Breakups are never easy. To answer your question: Yes you will find love again. The first time I fell in love it was just so addictive, with all the highs and lows of young love. I never thought I'd feel all of that again and just got used to being single for 3 years. I didn't date anyone or have any interest in being another relationship. Then I fell in love all over again even faster and harder than the first time. It was so unexpected. I'm single again for the first time in years. And the breakup was so much harder this time. But I know I'll love someone again even though I'm hurting right now. And you will too. People don't go through their lives isolated. New relationships form just by circumstance- we meet new people and make new friends. Wouldn't it be strange if you thought you'd never make a new friend? If new friends are a certainty, why not new romantic interests? I know that a broken heart feels like it'll stay broken forever but it's only temporary. For now, it's ok to hurt. Just don't give up on being happy with someone else someday. Hope everything works out!
@tealBlackberry7692 Thank you very much for the encouragements, i hope you heal soon as well.