I don't know what to do
Me and the OH haven't had an easy year, we're both so stressed all of the time and unfortunately end up taking it out on each other. Had THE conversation today, about him potentially moving out so we could go back to square one of the relationship and actually date, seeing as we never had that chance two years ago.
Few hours later he says he'd rather just break up, but then when we actually spoke he said he didn't mean it and that he wanted to try the break thing.
Has anyone ever done this?
Successfully or unsuccessfully?
Ì don't think we can continue living together and I don't really know what else to suggest.
Super confused, depressed and hopeless:(
@Femanon93
Hey, sounds like a pretty complicated situation, indeed! I understand that you're very confused, upset and probably frustrated at the way things had to go the way they did. So you said you don't think it's possible for you to live together again, but you also want to go back to square one?
I am in a similar situation. My wife suggested that we remove all the obligations of being married like having sex or her having to tell me where she goes or who she is with. Just focus on us being close friends and work on communiating with each other. I have been trying to look at the positives and kinda start over. I know I cant rush her if she isn't ready to try again. I just want to show her who i can be, how sorry I am for unintentionally make her feel emotionally alone, how i want to treat her like how i see her in my heart. I miss being affectionate and happy with her. I dont want her to find that in someone else.
@Titus83
Oh god your situation sounds so much like me...my husband has also said the same thing that maybe we should just live like 2 individuals under the same roof till am ready to go ahead with a proper separation. I am okay with the no interference thing, I had it in my mind but I still wasn't gonna follow this idea because I knew it is not right. Even now, I want us both to still be friends but he has completely withdrawn :(
@Titus83
my now ex we separated bc he was talking to some woman from his work I actually kicked him out bc he kept lying to me which I regret so much I wish we could have talked things out instead of me kicking him out but that was my mistake my baby and I miss him a lot I just wish he could come back but he don't want to anymore at first he would tell me to give him space that he needed space but our baby she got sick and so did I and I just kept asking him to come back which push him away more until we finally just broke up bc of that woman he tells me they just friends but it's hard to believe bc he puts her before our family I would never put anyone before our family but now idk how to move on I still love him very much and he don't even want to come see our baby bc he don't want to see me and I decided to just not talk to him anymore to just stay away as much as possible from him and just stop begging him to come back to us it hurts so much to let him go but it hurts the same to see him like this he was never like this and I just love him to much i don't know how to stop loving him
Any updates on how this worked out for any of you?
