I gave up and can't forgive
I recently realized in my relationship of over 19yrs that it is over. I've repeatedly given him the chance to change. I've let him know the issues. Over the last many years I've tried everything. Now that I told him that I want to split, he all.of a sudden sees the error of his ways. But, I fear it's too late. He's been a different person for about a month but I still dont feel different. I just want out. I dont know how to leave or tell him too. He gets emotional and it hurts me to hurt someone else. I just want to be happy.
I'm sorry to hear that :( It must hurt to hurt someone you've been with for a long time, but you deserve a life of happiness, too. We can't spend our lives making others happy at the expense of our own well-being. Letting go isn't easy, and it will hurt, but it's part of the process to turning a new leaf and seeing new horizons. I wish you all the best.