I have no idea what to do in MY OWN relationship
the guy that I'm with now i have been with before. We were together for 8 months and were completely in love. We were inseparable. So much that we were even engaged. But then one of my close friends told me she saw him having sex with his best female friend. Me being me, was hurt and terrified. and insecure. My heart is fragile and i can be a bit clingy... And I had had people cheat on me in the past. And convinced me to stay with him. So i was terrified that this would be the same thing so i just ended it with my boyfriend. Without telling him everything and just blocked him completely on everything.
But then i got into an argument with this so called friend and the truth came out that my boyfriend didn't do anything wrong.
And months later he has forgiven me and we are back together. But I'm having problems because hes different from last time. Hes more into drugs and he ignores me allot. I feel like we Are not meant for each other anymore. Maybe we have both changed too much.
I have no idea what to do about it either... Hes my heart and I've been with others but hes my first real love. I don't know if i should leave the relationship to save us both from the hurtful ending that i think is going to come upon us. Or try and work it out and hope for the best.
@Anotherinsecurebrokengirl
Hi. I'm sorry you've had to deal with such difficult times. His changed behaviour is quite justified, considering you dumped him without prior warnings. He must have been equally hurt by your behaviour. It is also clear he loves you unconditionally for having considered your apology and getting back to you. The only way out to this according to me is, you should sit and talk the misunderstanding out with him. You should make him understand how you were misled into believing something false and you would never give into something like this ever again :)
I hope you two get along together and everything gets fine. If you ever want to talk about this or anything else, feel free to drop in a message :) Take care. Peace, love and happiness <3
@Anotherinsecurebrokengirl
I agree with friendindeed up to a point. I think you acted too hastily in breaking up with your boyfriend after hearing a rumor. A rumor that he had no chance to defend himself against before you ended things. Of course it was certainly very kind and caring for him to give the relationship another chance, but you mentioned drug use and how you feel like you are drifting away from each other. Perhaps it's time to give the relationship a second look, and to sit down with your boyfriend to explain that the increased drug use and how you are feeling is making you reconsider the relationship.
Regardless of whether you believed a previous rumor or not, it's important to be happy and safe with your partner. Truth and transparency is always important. If you truly value the relationship, you'll explain these fears to him so that both of you can work on fixing things.
Good luck! 
xx
@Anotherinsecurebrokengirl
Hi, I am not a specialist, but if he is into heavy drugs (Cocaine/Ecstasy), you want to seriously reconsider this relationship, just imagine what kind of father he would be to your kids? Put your self first and you usually will find the best answer.
