I really need advice.

Hi everyone. I used 7 cups years ago and now I'm back it's different now. I know that everyone is going through a really hard time right now. But I really need some help. My husband and I are going through a really hard time and I know that we talking to someone would maybe help. We are at that point already but he is not interested in going and is just taking everything on me. I been listening and wanting him to hear me out but he is lot listening. We cant communicate each others needs without bringing up the past or yelling. We can have a conversation about anything it end up in a disaster. I already know we need help but he is not accepting it. What should I do? This last argument we had was very intense I litterly feared him at one point.