I think my 4 year relationship is ending
We both have kids, I've set boundaries with my ex but my boyfriend (maybe now ex) seems intimidated & scared of his ex & doesn't set boundaries. Myself & his mom have tried to talk to him & show him how she is manipulating & controlling him using their kids but nothing changes. I've become fearful the last few months that there's something more going on between him & his ex. He swears there's no but I can't shake the feeling.
2020 was a rough year & his ex made things extremely difficult! Back in March she flipped out & says I can't be around their kids or she'll keep them from him (which she's done before) I've tried to talk with him over the past week about how I feel & him not keeping his word about bringing me back around the kids even tho she says not to. I told him I've reached my limit and there needs to be a big change & I need to see action to back what he says to continue. He text me the following & asked to talk face to face.
"I don’t want to let you go I’m in love with you I love you I want you Amy !!! I can’t stand to see you with anyone else or anything!!!!" "I am going to join our lives my daughters are going to be around you and you’re gonna be around my daughters and I’m gonna keep my word like I keep telling you and I’m not gonna let no b*tch stand in the way"
I've been patient & understanding allowing him the time to handle things but nothings changed. I'm fed up & reached my limit which he knows but still no action. Yesterday we had a big blow up over this.
@Amae11
It is sad indeed that he has been unsuccessful in all his attempts to integrate your lives as planned. Perhaps his insecurity about not being able to see his children forces him to accept unreasonable demands. Is there any way to ensure this isn't used to threaten him? Once the fear subsides perhaps you can both work on setting clear boundaries with the ex.
It could be a lack of practical planning rather than a lack of genuine intention on his part. It is a difficult situation and your disappointment is understandable. Do you think getting legal advice on the issue of his parental rights might help?
