Me and my broken heart...

I totally understand where you're coming from. The same exact thing happened to me about a few months ago. And I hated myself too, and I cried most of the time and isolated my self from everyone and everything. And I too felt really stupid telling someone. But I learned that doing that just made my situation worse. You can't keep the anger and sadness trapped in you. Speak about it to someone who is very close to you. Trust me they are going to understand and help you through it....If he doesn't want you then stop beating yourself for it. Because I bet you are so much better than that. Don't ever put yourself down for someone who doesn't care. Cause if he doesn't care then why should you sweetie? Try to surround yourself with positive things :) don't waste your time being sad when there's somany more wonderful opportunities waiting for you. You just need to clear your head andjust surround yourself with positive people! :)

I was in your shoes and I found that if I did tell people about the way I felt for her, they said I was stupid, and didn't know what love was. I'm sorry to say that my heart beats for her like no other and I can't switch it off or command it to stop beating for her. I just felt that way with her. But people said I was stupid for falling in love with her, friends judged her and said that she was a bad person knowing that she was my girlfriend. When we broke up, I still was in love with her, people still said that same thing. So what does it matter then? I still will be judged even if I'm with or without her. She said she didn't know why she kissed the other guy. I knew it was more than that, it wasn't hard to tell that she was lying. Everyone hated me, family said how stupid I was. So, if I didn't cheat on her, and did everything right and just loved her like I know how why did everything go wrong? Thanks for post, you're not the only one. It's been over a year since I broke up with her. This one is the worst one.

Don't think I can say anything that hasn't been said already, only that I also know something of the pain you're feeling. It's 9 months since my girlfriend of four years and I split, I only recently discovered she found someone else whilst we were together and that's why reallywhy she wanted us tobreak up. She won't even talk to me about it, I found out from someone else and I've had no explanation.I have no reason to love her anymore, and yet deep down I still care, I still miss her despite what she is putting me through.

The point is, you can't control your heart. You can't control the way you feel, but you can decide how it affects you, and contain those feelingsso you can deal with them when you have the time. It hurts like hell but hang in there! You are allowed to feel like this, it is not stupid at all. Whether you think feeling like that is justified or not doesn't matter, what matters is that you keep going and keep living. Don't let one person bring you down when the world is full of better people you've not even met yet! Really hope that you start to feel better soon.

*Free hug*

Thank you everyone. It feels good to know that there are people who can understandme. People, who don't even know me, care enough to spend their time and tell me that everything will be alright.The world isn't too bad after all. May be I'm better off without someone who doesn't care about me. My brain already knows it,I just have to convince my mind now.​

Reading this it seems me writing a year ago. I completlly understand where you are, I've been there. Actually I'm still strugglingabout it. Well I was devasted. I cried every night, every day. I'mjust a piece of who I was. My heart was so broken to move on. I felt so stupid and idiot 'cause I was lay in my bed for two weeks without seeing any day light 'cause of the guy I loved and that was suck a idiot with me. Why still I care about him? After all I understand that I need to move on, do something for me. Make a decision. Now a year after I've come trough a lot. And I get better and better. I fight every day. But I still shaking when I saw him. Well I was broken and now I would say I'm br(ok)en. I'm better. And I know you will be too. If you want, feel free to start a chat with me. I totally understand you. So don't hesitate about contact me. I believe you will get over all this. Step by step! :*

I know what your feeling because thats what happening to me to, he dosent know what he wants and my heart just breaking. i feel just like you ad at myself because even after what he said my heart still wants him

I know what your feeling because thats what happening to me to, he dosent know what he wants and my heart just breaking. i feel just like you ad at myself because even after what he said my heart still wants him

Oh my god! So glad i wasn't the only crazy one. Ok, take it from someone who fell in love with theWORST kind of guys. Doesn't know what he wants = wants EVERYTHING. It basically means he wants to sleep around. It sounds harsh, but i honestly wish I had someone being a little harsh to me instead of coddling me and telling me it was all going to be ok. Girl, you need to cry your eyes out and get it OUT of your system ASAP. Then you need to NOT jump into bed with every guy you meet for some time. That time could be anywhere from a few weeks to a few months. Just DON'T do it unless you are the type to not get attached (in which case, go nuts i guess.) Next steps. Go buy some shoes, or get a new hair colouror lipstick, or piece of furniture or new plant, or whatever your thing is. Go do something knew for yourself. Also, stay connectedwith friends. Do NOT, i repeat, NOT become a hermit. Next step, do some exercise. Whatever your thing is, go out and move! Do it for all those endorphins. Lastly, do something creative. Doesn't mater if you suck at it or its weird. Paint, bake, sculpt, build, whatever. Make some stuff. learn a knew thing.

Then before you know it, your fucking fabulous and you no longer care what mr 'doesn't know what he wants' is doing because you're too busy being awesome. All of a sudden you have put yourself back together again and your walking tall. Trust me. Do these things. They WORK! They may be a little cliched, but they WORK.

Good luck beautiful! I know it feels like the end of the world now, but trust me, it really isn't. Much love! xoxo

i justread a post that might help you understand the process of a breakup

https://www.7cups.com/forum/GetSupport_28/SurvivingBreakupsDivorce_46/StagesafteraBreakup_1268/

sending hugs know that you are never alone you have friends here at 7 cups of tea

First off you need to give up the warpynegative thought because as they do you no goodand heart breaks are always hard especially when we do not understand why and it would seem he does not know either .here is a site that i recommend to help you understand what warpy thoughts are check it out it is called the Mood Gym