My ex girlfriend is aro???

Hi, I’ve been really trying to cope with this recent break up I’ve had. We’re both teenagers and have been going out for 7 months, and the relationship was really passionate on both sides. She even asked if she could marry me later on when we move out and live together for a few years. I have huge abandonment issues, trust issues, and I overthink a lot. All of this I told her before and all throughout our relationship. She was so amazing, and then a little over 2 weeks ago, she was going through a lot and said she needed time alone, and I gave her that, with little reminders that she’s so strong and she can get through this. (We didn’t establish a no contact rule) on the night she started replying to me in like, an actual conversation and not quick checkins, then she ignored me for 4 days straight. I was naturally super worried and overthinking like crazy but I didn’t say much on that because I trusted her. She told me she started to do cocain. I told her I love her and spent most the day telling her that she should really try to get off of that and I’m here for her and sending her resources. A day or two later she said her friends staged and intervention and it was getting better. But then, a little over a week after that, she started ignoring me again. I started overthinking, but I just pulled up past messages of her reassuring me she wasn’t leaving me. I told her that we need talk because I needed to set the boundary that I can’t been ignored in my relationship and contact cant be mostly one sided. She told me shes been going through a lot, thinks shes aro, and didn’t know what she wanted and clearly can’t make me happy anymore. I said hey you make me really happy thats why I want to get through this with you. She said she wanted a break or to break up and get back together when she was getting better. Then i asked her what she meant by she thinks she might be aro since its a spectrum and I wanted to know what she meant. She said she meant fully, and i asked her so you do want to break up? And she said yes. I asked her how long she’s known, she said a few days, less than a week. I asked her if any of it was real, did she actually love me or just thought she did, she said she did. The feelings just changed. And then i got upset with her because in those few days she found this out, she didn’t tell me, and lead me on, saying that she loved me. I just don’t understand how she woke up and didn’t have feelings for me anymore

Now here’s the thing, she never did any of this stuff before the cocain. Lying, leading me on, ignoring me, and kinda manipulating me. That was all before hand. Now, she might be actually aro, I don’t actually know because she doesn’t respond to me. But she’s also lied to me about so much, at this point I can’t even honestly trust that. Plus, I talked to my therapist about it and she said theres a chance that it is the cocain making her lose her empathy, because it lines up with the start of her addiction. I’m so lost and I want answers.

And a week prior to her needing alone time, I had a dream where she wanted to be just friends and i came to her upset and she reassured me, saying she’d do everything in her power to never let that happen.

To end this off, it wouldn’t have hurt as much if she just came out to me instead of lying to me. My best friends is one of my ex’s that we decided we were better off as friends. But it’s the constant lying and avoiding me and the purposely leading me on that hurts me the most. I feel like I can’t trust her word on it because shes lied, and won’t respond to me anymore. She said she had a deep care for me and didn’t think she could ever not care for me while breaking up, and wanted to still be friends. But she’s ignoring me. So that too seems to be a lie. And considering she’s an addict and so different from the person i fell in love with, I’m not even sure she aro because she could just want cocain over the relationship and would rather lie than tell me the truth. Which would suck even more because if she’s aro at least she lied not as much

Regardless of weather or not she is actually aro or just lying to me again, the way she acted in the past few days was not the person I fell in love with. The one who promised me she’d always be honest no matter what and if she broke up with me (she said she would never on multiple occasions) that we would still be friends. The one that was honest with me, never ignored me, and never ever lead me on. All of that started with her addiction. She isn’t the person I fell in love with. But it sucks that it ended like this. I wish more than anything that she would just answer me and answer me truthfully. I’d much rather a harsh truth than a lie.

But idk it’s been tough trying to get over her. I mean, it was 3 days ago and I’m trying my best, but it feels like i need that closure to get over her