Need advice
How do I get over not being with the person I had a child with? All he's done is lie to me and cheat on me over and over again, but we have a kid together and I feel dumb for wanting it to work still
@bernardcohn I'm sorry that you are struggling. I know it can be hard to let go of a relationship. There is grief involved, and a feeling of loss. I too have had relationships where the other person lied and cheated and yet I still wanted to be with them. For me, this stemmed from hoping they would one day choose me and stop their behavior. I had to eventually realize that I can't change anyone, and that I have to choose to keep people in my life that make me feel good, uplift and empower me. I think the first step for you would be to have a therapist help walk you through why you think you still need someone that lies and cheats on you. This could be a codependency issue (as it was in my case) or something else. Have you considered therapy? My heart goes out to you. <3
@WoodThrush no I have not! But maybe I should.
@bernardcohn
I myself wouldn't condone lying and cheating behaviour out of my partner whatever the reason is. But since there's a kid involved, I believe it's normal to still want it to work out. Maybe you can try seeking marriage counseling?