No where to go.
I guess I'm writing this because i want to feel being heard. It's just been so hard for me dealing with my breakup and watching my ex move on in what? Likes a weeks time.
I have not many friends and no where to go. I just don't know what to do next and i can't see anything giid happening in my life in the foreseeable future.
I don't want to have this feeling. I wish to move on fron this but i guess it's hard to just forget someday who you've been with for 9 years.
@MAK1917
You need to give yourself time and patience. As you've said, it's not easy to forget a person what whom you've bee 9 years, and that you've loved so much.
@fantasticDancer50 i know man. It's just so hard tho. I've never felt so weak and vulnerable in my whole life. I'm miserable here while she is most probably enjoying her life. I feel like i want to shout out so people can listen and actually help me. :(
@MAK1917
I'm in a similar boat. As my new post states. I too was in a 9 year relationship. I think he emotionally moved on years ago. He stopped talking to me a month ago....the only difference, if I cave in and contact him, he will respond, and I have seen him. Although if I went to his house, he sits there and doesn't talk to me. Just sits. It's killing me inside because he never gave me any reason for this behavior and when I ask him, he still says hes in a " relationship" with me even though it sure doesn't seem that way.
9 years is a long time. I feel I wasted my time....again. Did you have any red flags in your relationship that you ignored because your heart was talking louder? I know how you feel...it's so difficult.
@catmouse555 i had a lot of these red flags you're talking about. To start with she cheated on me and i let her get away with it. She made tons of different promises after i found out and i bought all of them.
She has ignored me a LOT, like a hell LOT. Whenever she had something planned for her like a trip or a party or a get together, her behaviour towards me use to change big time. She use to treat me differently, talk with me in a different tone and god forbid if i was angry. She either use to tell me that i need to deal with it and get over it or use to threaten to breakup. This has been happening since 2015 and i kept on ignoring it. I feel like i was her emotional pillow.
@MAK1917
9 years is a long time. I should have left when mine stopped being any kind of intimate with me after 3 years. I've gone 6 years without so much as a kiss. No idea if hes been faithful or not....When do you think things started to fall apart and did you keep going out of love? Fear of being alone? Did you hope the good times would reinvent themselves?
Have you had any contact? When was the last time you talked, text, etc? I had a moment of weakness today after work I went to his house and wanted a hug. He hugged me no problem, but that was it. No talking, no nothing. I left right away. Still no communication. I'm just hurting myself. You might wish for that contact, but it doesn't change anything....at least not in my situation.
@MAK1917
Hope you are doing better in life these days. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and that person doesn't sound as if they respected you.
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