Oral over Me
Hi, my first thread. I feel silly and confused but sad overall.
The guy I’ve been seeing exclusively for over a year (let’s call him De) didn’t want to commit to a relationship. We only saw each other, met each other families and felt like soulmates.
He wanted more *** though and didn’t want to feel like he was changing me.
In my previous relationship this was never a pressing want so I learned to give when I am comfortable and when I wanted to make him feel extra special.
De was upfront many times and let me know bjs are important to him. He was really good to me so I willingly put more effort into this area. But it wasn’t enough. I explained how a title is important to me, makes me feel valued and more comfortable giving. When I asked why he was still hesitant he said he would want oral more often. All he had to do was give me what I needed and he may of gotten what he wanted. But I can’t go any longer for someone who can’t commit and is being so selfish.
I’m really hurt. In my eyes he is letting all we built go over oral. I can’t understand this type of mindset and it’s hurting.
Not sure what I’m looking for here.. just wanted to try sharing with someone. Thank you
@caringheart85
Hi, caring. You used the word selfish, and I have to agree this rings true from my perspective. A relationship is not built on physical needs alone. A relationship, in my opinion, requires both parties to respect one another. From what you are sharing, it feels like this person values physical intimacy of his own liking above all else. How will you find happiness if you are not getting what you need from this relationship? You deserve to feel all the good things that you desire.