Reaching out - post break up

My ex and I have been offical seperated about a month now, at first we're just going to spend sometime apart due to both of us in bad places mentally and the continious arguing in our relationship.

To give a backgroud, we had been together almost 3 years but the last year and a half we had been constantly arguing and it would start over really small things that then became big issues and also there were bigger problems that never got resloved regarding communicte and intimacy. A year into out relationship we moved interstate together and lived with my sister after 6 months she moved interstate and we moved closer to some of his family, and since moving i become very shut off in all aspects not just in our relationship but socially as well, i never made any firends at all and had a panic attacks and terrible expiernce meeting a couple my ex made friends with, dont get me wrong i really liked them but due to the bad expiernce i had i never wanted to meet any new people or hang out with anyone, this caused a lot of strain in our relationship because it was affecting his social life, I struggle to comunicate with him despite how supportive he was and just gave him empty promises about how i would change, in my defence he has his own issues and one of them being anger and that would really affect how i would react to things and what not, although i was in complete denial about how i could make things better and just ignored alot of things.

Now that we have seperate its really clear to me how i couldve changed alot of things and i do feel almost solely responsible for our downfall although i know there were alot of things he shouldnt of done or done differently, i know i hurt him alot and i do still love him with all my heart and its hard because i know he loves me too and whats harder is we both still want to be together but we both just arent ready for that. I have already started to make progress, i have made a friend and am seeking help from a professional but i know in my heart right now we still couldnt not be together becuase i still have alot to work on and i would need to see some changes of him as well, we are still in contact as we are still contected with some bills and what not and do still want to be aprt of eachother lives even if that means just being friends and who know s there might be a chnace to reconnect in the future but im struggling to find the right balance of communication.

I know this is a very long post but its always hard to explain my situtaion and im hoping i can connect with someone who has been through something simliar or who wouldnt mind being someone i can contact when im having down days/times.

i dont know if this is the right place, but its worth a shot.