Recently broken up with
Hi everyone in this forum.
Yesterday, my (ex)boyfriend broke up with me because he told me our relationship had a lot of problems that he simply could not handle alongside his stressful work schedule. I feel dumped and hurt but He told me he still loves me and wants me in his life again.
I am still very in love with him and I told him I still wanted to be with him but he said he would like to be separated for now.
I'm trying my hardest to be positive at the moment but it's so hard to when you feel slightly responsible for the downfall of your most sincere relationship. I want to cry a lot of the time, because I miss him so much. I feel haunted by our memories everywhere I look because we've been everywhere together. Everything reminds me of him.
I need to move on from him for the sake of my happiness and future friendship with him. I don't want to, but I know I need to. I need to work on finding myself again.
This hurts so much. Positive responses welcome and highly appreciated.
@blissfuloddity I don't know if this positive, but it's a fact. Sometimes people aren't perfect together. Sometimes it takes a while to figure this out. It's nobody's fault; it's just that there are differences between people - who they are, what they want, what's important for them at a certain time in their life.
I would take what he said at face value. The stressful work environment is occupying all his time right now. That's not something you're responsible for. In fact, if he spent so much time with you that he lost his job, you would both be resentful, so give him his space. Use your time to explore the world (and people) around you. Don't go away from this feeling guilty or hurt. Move on feeling good that you shared happiness with someone for a while. Be confident that there are other guys out there who will see the same good qualities in you that your ex did.
Sure you feel bad. That's normal and it will last for a while. You can keep going. How's the weather where you are? Is it sunny? Go out and enjoy the sunshine. Is it rainy? Go out and feel the rain. Like the weather, life will bring lots of different feelings. Appreciate them all.
@10ship You're more than an option, beautiful. remember that. don't ever hurt because of a man that chooses not to see how special you are. You're just worth more than that, if he can't see that, he's not the one for you. He should be begging on his knees for you, you seem like such a great girl. He's does not deserve you.
@lauren1919 Thank you so much. :)