Starting over

I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. A little over 2 weeks ago I discovered text messages on his phone. He denied, denied, denied. Promised me that he wasn’t talking to them any more. This week he was arrested for stealing from his job. He potentially faces a very large conviction. He admitted to cheating for awhile but will not give me any more information. He grew up in a very dysfunctional and chaotic environment. I’ve spent most of our relationship thinking that I can “fix” him. I’ve thought that I was the issue. I’ve been manipulated to see his reality. But I still love him. I’m struggling to let him go but I no longer feel like I’m married. I feel like I saw this coming and was already preparing… maybe subconsciously. We are currently sleeping in separate rooms but still living together. I need him to get help. I believe that he is bipolar and seeking the affection he needed from him family in other women. I want to be there as a friend. A support system but I can not be his wife right now. I’m struggling with this because I don’t want to give in and allow him to continue to lie and manipulate. I don’t want to waste my time but I don’t want to abandon him either. Is it time to move on or ok to hold on just a little longer with boundaries that i establish? I’m hurt, mad, embarrassed. I want to leave but also want to make sure he isn’t alone.