This was purest love
Hi, I am from india. I met this girl 5 years back through online chat. She was not from my city & we used to talk through phone calls. We met couple of times in real too. In starting she showed me a very decent girl about herself. I kept believing her about her love and commitment for me. She gave me every single reason to get attracted towards her. It was my fault to trust her all the time, now I realized when she ruined my life in such a way, that every day I am living like for the sake of living only. Since 1st day, I was like an open book for her. Liked to discuss every small to bigger things. She prentended to give her sympathy and understandings. By this day by day, I was getting more and more involved with her. I was completely loyal with her in all ways. Because I was getting surety from her in the form of commitments etc. I was thinking as a mutual love but for her it was just a game when she revealed so many different and wrong things about her. For 4 years, she was okay, she used to argue on petty things that I always ignored for the sake of our relation. Right in august 2013, she said very different things that was not acceptable from her. As she was my soul mate"
In august 2013, when revealed her that part which was not acceptable for me in comparison to what she told me about her after being with me for 4 years. She said accidently or intentionally that one of her male friend came to her home for drinks and all. She was 31 in her age. According to her he is her school mate, he forced her to have drinks at her home in absence of her family. I asked her if he is her normal friend that too you talk to him in once or twice in a year, how he can force you for drinks. She took my questions in very arrogant manner. And started arguing with me on this, I didn't doubt her but her words were sounding me very strange, why didn't she told me that she has friends too. She told me she is friendless. I was listening her ill treatment for me as she was abusing me and my emotions over my all good, decent treatment for her. I was just shocked and she didn't noticed what she is saying and to whom she is saying to that person who is treating her as a life partner.
Then right on my birthday, she broke up with me. I didn't took this break up in a easy manner and fell very sick. She knew I am not well, but she kept hurting me from her ill behavior for me through txt msgs and phone calls. I was just listening her views, till how far she can go. I was judging my decision, that I made to choose her from her talks. I was expecting her to ask me about my health but she didn't. After that she told me we are friends now, I said its not acceptable for me because I have my own self respect, after listening so much rubbish, I don't want to be in any relation with you. Later, she said, she was playing with me all these years. Again a new shock for me. I asked her how? She said, you are a fool, she cannot stay longer in any relationship, she has relationship with 3 more guys other then me. I said, its good for you and you must be happy now that "you fed your ego" for making me fool for so many years. Then after 4 months, she wanted to come back again as per her habit. One day she will break up and in a week time she wants to come back like everytime she does with me so many times and I kept accepting her. This time too, I made a mistake and forgive her and allowed her to ruined my life and personality again. While I regaining my confidence, she asked me to meet in person again. I was not ready to meet her, but she forced me. We planned and this date was like a mess and it was our last date. That day, I have seen her very true and every single color of her misbehavior for me. That day, I realized I always allowed her to back in my life and despite of all my good for her she is treating me like a servant. Yes, its true. I realized my mistake, she was treating me like a help. After returning back to home, after two days. She took very small discussions into a break up again. Again after 2 months in June, I allowed her to ruin me till I was left as I always does. Now last month in june, again she did the same insults, abused me, ill treatment from her. Now I decided to call it off finally. As she didnn't wanted to have in blame in her soul that she breakup with me. Everytime, she knew I won't give up till the end of life. But from her very -very ill treatment, she forced me to call it off. It was too height of her personality as she presenter her a decent and loving girl in starting. Now I am dealing after effects of break up. I am not able to move on from this at all, just thinking how she made fool of me.in every single moment. I don't have any confidence left in me. She didn't gave me some time to regain my fallen pieces of me. Really feeling lost from all this toxic relationship. Please help me with all kind suggestions.
Hey , i am really sorry that all this had to happen to you, and i do believe that you will be able to pick yourself up and walk again in life. I would love to speak to you, and give you some insight on those suggestions you asked for, so if you would like to have a chat with me, you can click on my profile and just send me a message if I'm offline, or connect if I am online :)
Hi vini, can we talk in Hindi? I will be online tomorrow by 8:30 on tuesday. (india time). Theek rahega, Yeh time aapke liye? Abhi dekha aapka reply.
Hi there, welcome to the site
You have been very brave writing down your story and here and reaching out, please know we are all here for you should you wish to connect with a member.
This is a great link into a guide within 7cups which can help you with your feelings around your break-up
https://www.7cups.com/breakup-advice/
Take gentle care of yourself
Tina
Thanks so much, I will definitely visit this link. Thanks again.
I am so sorry for your sufferings. .. But there are certain questions you need to answer yourself... wheither she actually love you... because I feel mistakes can be changed.. you can fight about it.. and eventually you can end them accordingly. .. but habbits cannot be changed... If she hid things from you ... then I feel you need to find out the reason why... ?.. I think all the answers to your questions are inside you... in the end its your choice.. but always see both sides of the coin... maybe she has explanations to your suffering... just try once talking to her :)... hope you'll feel better soon... Good luck and be happy... :) :)
Hi, all these years I was telling her to keep the things clear and transparent. She never did, she always said. "I am like this only". This time, she didn't left any room to talk to her again. She was unpredictable completely. One minute, she will say something, next minute she will say "Did I said so"? She was making me fool of me with a word of love. When I think from inside, I find the answer is big Zero on her part. Everytime, she argued and in three four days, she will want to come back. She always wanted me to think according to her way only. This gave me mischievous picture of her. Then she revealed so many wrong things, which forced me to think. What I am? What I am doing? Now she completely left me no where in the middle and like always, she insulted me so bad, that I don't have any courage left to listen more from her. Thanks so much for your kind views. Yes, I am looking the coin from both sides. Thanks a lot. God bless you, for helping me on this.
Once I asked her, about hiding the things from me. When she considered me a special person in her life? Especially, I asked her relationship with other guys. She said, she afraid how will I take her revelations after listening all this? I said, then she should stop continuing with me. I would have understand automatically, that you are no more interested, this was much simpler for me instead of hiding the things and blast when she saw things are good now to reveal. On this, she didn't said anything.
