We were together for 13yrs
So I just need help talking out what to do😢
Me and my boyfriend have been together off and on for 13 years. We arent married but might as well be. We have not had the easiest relationship sometimes. We fight we had both cheated but somehow we end up back together. We also now have 2 kids together. After our last kid we couldnt stop fight and I had severe postpartum depression, so I took the kids and moved out of state. He said he didnt care and wouldnt stop me.
Once I got out here I put in motion putting my life back together for me and my kids. I got a new job and a place. I also got off the depression meds. I was ready to start over. But he was here every other weekend. And we started building our relationship again. Just 2 weeks ago I told him that I was so happy and this is the happiest we have been. He has been here since the end of January he took his paternity leave late.
So here we are in the present. Right now he is in the hospital in the ICU. He has a spinal infection. He is on a vent. Im terrified for him. So me being a good girlfriend I guessed his password and was getting numbers to notify his family of whats going on. We I got in his phone and you can guess what I found.
He is cheating on me with 4 different wemen! There have been trips to Vegas and pictures...do many dirty pictures. He told one I love u. He has a secret Facebook and instagram. Because he is sedated I cant yell or cus to get this out. So Im left to my thought. To cry and want answers.
@Brokenandinlove
first off Im sorry. You have no idea how bad I feel for you. Maybe because I have almost the identical situation. I have been married for 8 yrs.. seperated for 3... but we have been together for 10 years. We have never been without each other for more than a Couple of days at a time. But she did tell m she wanted to move on and has done so twice. Problem is we were reconciling nd were in very good place until I found out a week ago that a friendship she had was indeed a sexual relationship. Now Im reeling and I confronted her. I told her I forgive her and that the best thing to do with all our history is to try to talk it out like adults and get some help.
Well now she tells me its over. That she wants a real divorce. So yea. Serendipity? Yup
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@Brokenandinlove
Sorry to hear that. I can understand your feeling very well. I can see you r very kind human being with so many hurts you still helping him though other side you are mentally strain.
You are very strong person . See dear you are capable enough and you had prove yourself you can handle your life and kids very well. I am so proud of you . You had handle it so nicely.
About him see you can talk about this with him. Because it's very necessary he is not in habit of cheating I mean four women at one time. He too don't know what he want exactly in his life. He is just doing without thinking much about future. He is lucky that you are taking care. But do you deserve you hurt yourself so much to help him.Do you think he would have done same if he would at your place. Fine you are good person but you are human being you too need to be care and loved. Please don't hurt yourself more already you have tough life . Ask him see how much honest he is with you in accepting his mistake and how much genuinely effort you can see in his eyes and action to work on relationship with you. If you don't find please ask him to arrange someone look after him as you have other responsibility to take care. Nothing wrong in bring bit selfish for yourself.
@Divorcsupport thank you for your response. I really dont know how to be selfish and not take care of everyone around me 1st. Right now I just wanna get him well and then I can focus on my emotions about everything else. I am so hurt by this entire situation that I wish I could just turn it off for a bit and think straight. I never thought it could hurt this bad. Thank you for your kind words.
@Brokenandinlove
Selfish I mean give time to yourself also your feeling also. Sometime giving giving make us emotional drain that life become tough.
@Divorcsupport and thats my issue right now Im emotional drained. I habe literally cried at least twice a day since last week. I just cried in the shower....ism how much more of this I can take
@Brokenandinlove
Why you are giving yourself such pressure. Please cool down. Maybe he is good father but you deserve someone nice who love and care you more than you do. So don't waste your emotions on him pls. As humanity help me till he don't get discharge. Let his family take care of him.
@Divorcsupport your right. I need to grant myself grace. Im not sure how to do that but I am. Just gonna take it day my day. Today I will not go to the hospital. I will go home get my kids. Go get my nails done and cook them dinner. Thank you
@Brokenandinlove
Good to hear you r taking a break for yourself. You need that. Hope you feel relax a bit and nice
@Divorcsupport thank you for helping me see that I need to take care of me first! I went to the hospital for 30 mins. Went to get my nails done and then to get my kids and we got pizza! They are so happy and I am happy! Today was a really great day! Thank you 😊
@Brokenandinlove
Wow so so happy for you. See you are charge up. We all.are here with you dear.
