Will I ever get over my ex?
Hello, its been 5 months after my ex left me for someone else. He cheated on me and betrayed me in many ways. After all those 5 months of hell I am still crying in my bed and missing him so much! I know I should be happy I am not with him after all he did to me but i am not. I am totally destroyed and unhappy. He completely moved on never really contacted me nothing. He wanted to stay friends after break up which i said yes to but we never really talked. i texted him once but he was so resentful i never texted him again. I just feel like i really want to tell him how much he hurt me! i wish i could do that but i will not. I wish I would know all the answers what happened, why he exchanged me for someone else... why is he treating me like i meant nothing to him... why? why i cant move on? I've tried everything... picking up new hobby, exercising, concentrating on myself, spending time with my friends, dating, therapy, etc. NOTHING helps. nobody matches to my ex. nobody is so pretty and successful, nobody can make me happy as he did... i remember all those times i was so happy when i was with him. i loved my life... i was so excited to be with him... everything has changed since he left me. i wish i would fall asleep and never woke up. my life is falling apart. I am just hopeless.
@Eliza0 i am sorry your going through this it takes time to get over some one its best to not rush it let your grief take its course and eventually you will move on and find some one else good luck.
@kitkat34567 thank you. I guess it will take many years to get to the point when i might be interested in someone else. Its just so hard to get through each day... my health is getting worse and worse ans i will probably never have my own child that scares me even more. because when i will be ready to date someone else one day ( maybe) i will be too old to have a baby.
@Eliza0 i understand its tough but just have to take it day by day
@Eliza0 I am sorry to hear what you are going through. But in order to lead your life. you have to move on. You have such a pure heart I can sense that and your probably missed seeing that. Everything will fall in its place. Have faith and you have us, we are always there with you. Be strong!
@ThePorcupineTree thank you so much. I am way too kind person thats why he took me for granted. If I ever get over this I will get over anything. I am really trying every day to move on but its impossible. i just have to get through days somehow amd hope time will help. thank you for your time to read this and reply. its always nice to talk to someone:)
@Eliza0 You can always bank upon us. And please don't hurt yourself mentally and emotionally. It's definitely not worth it. You are made to be more happier. Live that moment and trust me, you are not alone.
@ThePorcupineTree thank you ❤️ i hope one day i will be happy again
@Eliza0 Yeah I know you will be. And you will help many more people to be happy
@Eliza0 this is such a sad story and resonates with myself and many others I'm sure. This is your pain and your story, everything you're feeling is completely valid. Do not think for one minute that this process has to have a time limit. It doesn't! Don't try and get over it just go through it. Let the waves of emotions come and go. You sound like an amazing person who will eventually become stronger in your own time. You will learn and grow from this. It will be another facet on the diamond you are shaping yourself into. Much love ☺️
@LittleLostFemale thank you so much for your reply. I am sure there is many people going through the same or similar... when he broke up with me i thought it will take only 1-2 months to get over him as thats how it was with other exes. i found someone new very soon and moved on fast. This is so different... i wasnt expecting to feel like this. i thought i am much stronger and that everything will be better. i would never thought that i will feel even worse after 5 months than at the beginning. he was special and i will always love him. no matter what. i just need to learn to be happy alone otherwise i will suffer for the rest of my life. i wish i could fast forward time and be at least ok. Life is so hard sometimes
@Eliza0
yes you would get over him , like delete him on your social medias i can relate how you're feeling because i have there before for 2 times it hurts me 💔 especially the 2nd one whom i just manage to forget about him last month . i know it takes time to heal everything , if you need someone to chat you may leave message to me . wish you good luck & 🙏 god bless
@jazmine1986 i did delete him but still can see a lot from other people. how long did it take you to get over your ex? i just feel like nothing helps. I want him back 😭
@Eliza0
the first one is about 3 years while the second is more longer 9 years , 😢
@jazmine1986 oh wow 9 years? thats crazy! even 3 years is long! i always thought i will be completely fine after 6 months or so as i always got over my exes fast but i guess if you find the one you are really in love with then it takes much longer! i hope you can heal one day qnd get over him
@Eliza0 how long were you with him for? I've made a conscious decision to come off most social media platforms because the temptation to see what he and our other friends are up too was too much. It's ok to want him back just don't let him know you do. That will just boost his ego!
@LittleLostFemale we were together only for 2 years but much stronger relationships than i ever had. my previous relationships lasted much longer. exactly i can't show him or tell him i want him back as it would push him away even more - i did it at the beginning after 1 month of NC. didn't work. i went no contact again and prepared to only text him on christmas. i think the only chance he would get back is if it was his idea... actually he texted me recently... not sure why though
@Eliza0 2 years is a substantial time to be with someone. Having them there one minute and suddenly gone the next is going to leave a very large void. No 2 loves are the same which is why you can't put time limits on healing. His texting you recently may have been genuine. However, be cautious that its he's not done it to keep you from moving on. He may just be touching base to see if you'll still be there for him to go back to. You don't suddenly want to become 'the other woman' why should you let him have his cake and eat it? He'll never leave one if he can get away with both! Put yourself on the pedestal and make him climb it! 💚
@LittleLostFemale thank you x 2
years is long but so much happend in those 2 years. i just got addicted to him so strongly. We just exchanged few messages but he was very distant (me too) and he didn't reply back to my last message yet. dont think he will. i find it very emotionally stressful to be texting with him because it gives me hopes even if i know there is no chance of getting bqck together. it hurts but better if we are not in contact. i have no idea why texted me though i found it very weird. probably he was just checking if i still want him or i dont know
Hi. I know it feels like u will never get over him, but u will. I am in same position. Everyone tells u to stay busy etc and they mean well but it still hurts sooo much. I truly think time is only thing that helps..and maybe eventually meeting someone new. I am here if u want to talk. I am pretty miserable too. Sending u a hug.😇🤗
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@Lovetennis thank you so much! and i am sorry to hear you are going through the same. stayed busy doesn't really help... maybe little bit but then you come back home where he used to be with you... in the same bed etc... its just impossible. i hope time will help but its gonna take long!!! and finding someone new alwaya helped me after breaking up with my exes but this time it doesn't... this time it's different. there is nobody better than my ex... nobody excites me at all... its the opposite.. if i date i feel even more miserable. please semd me a message x i have no idea how to send private message actually! i would love to talk!
Hi! I just replied and I dont think it posted. I will try and figure out how to send a message. Does anyone else know how?
How r u doing today? I am not so great. 🤧😇ugh...
