cant move on

@roumanite Hello there! Moving on can be very difficult indeed. I am sorry to hear your story :/ We all deserve attention and sometimes it does happen that the other person is not fit to give us what we are asking for. Painful, I know :/ Also it's great that your bestfriend is supportive :D!

1. You seem to be very hard on yourself. You can start by forgiving yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and that's Okay. That does not make us less worthy. And also, we all don't move on rapidly. You are not a disappointmen or a burden because of that.

Loving yourself starts in the mind. Realise that you deserve to be loved as much as you feel like. Make a list of your qualities and good actions if you want :) And most importantly, take care of yourself.

2. You seem to know your weak spots. And that's great! You can use what you know to make small changes in your everyday life if you wish. You can also think about why you have certain traits that you dislike and why you want to change these.

Moving on is a full process. Accept what has happened and accept that the relationship is over. Accept that you also deserve better. Tough, I know, I suggest to check out related forum posts ad self help guides.

3. Perfectly Okay if you feel it's best for you :) Self care is not selfish!

Hope you get better xxx Let us know and connect to a listener if the need arises <3

Hello, I am PurpleGoddess and I have been in your shoes before. I can tell you that I know how you feel and I understand. You will get better and get over him soon enough, but you have to let go of him and focus on yourself right now. I see that you said he feels like you are ill tempered, and that is something you can be working on while you are still young and have the time because if you do not work on it that will get worst and you may get to a point were you cannot control it. I have been through many bad breakups and let me tell you, lol they were not worth it and neither was my first divorce. I really hope that what I said helps you and that you get better.

1. How to love myself.. Loving yourself does not come easy for some, but comes easy for others. For me it did not come easy at all. In order for me to love myself I just had to remind myself that others love me & I need to love myself the same. Day by day it took me to get to love myself. The high self esteem doesn't come either. You just have to keep being positive & reminding yourself that you are great & nothing is wrong with the way you look.

2. How to change myself become a better person and move on : In order to move on I think staying busy is the best thing. Being busy and give it time. You won't get over him right away and that is completely normal.

3. Is it ok that i dont contact my ex forever? Last was when i broke up : It is completely fine to not contact your ex! If talking to him causes you sadness and pain it is better to just leave him alone.