don't know what's next
Where to begin I went through a 16 year marriage YX work as a teacher for more than 70 hours a week didn't cook dinner clean didn't hear anything about her job this eventually took her toll on our relationship and we were divorced after 16 years sometime after that I got involved with what's not mine ex fiance things were good and everything but she had stomach surgery and Deuce lost a lot of weight and her mind seems to change she has goals that she wants to accomplish and I can a copy from them for her my financial status is not going to allow it and she is moving on my parents are dead I have very few friends Tiffany I have no one to turn to all I want to do is sleep I need to move on but I don't know how I am going to therapy and I know I'm depressed where do I go from here
@mrwabell
I am sorry your going through this 16 years is a long time some couples can drift away from one another over time and over small things like no communication no sex no affection things like that or they don't get things in return when that one person is always on there feet for the other the best thing for you to do is think about your self you need to look after yourself eat healthy go for walks go out and watch a movie take time out for yourself do things that make you happy do what you want to do what you always wanted to do travel see nature something that makes you feel good always brighten up your day and life with colourful things also try having a group chat or one on one with our lovely listeners on here there is also our self help guides if you haven't already
@BrightRedFlower2322
thank you for the reply.
i know that this is what i need to do but i have no motivation. all i want to do is sleep. maybe i should force myself to go do some thing every weekend. and sleep during the week after work of course. my ex fiancee is in the process of moving out. so that is not helping me any. and i am still having to deal with my ex wife because we have 2 kids together 14 and 17. love my kids can't stand her anymore.
@mrwabell your welcome I am the same I rather sleep all day but I have a very super active girl so I'm always on the go go go I'm sorry you have to deal with both of them at the sane time I have to deal with my ex cause he can't leave me alone he done enough damage to me as it is but he won't leave me alone you have to motivate yourself tell yourself right time to get up do house cleaning have shower go for a walk 20mins to an hour how ever long go somewhere where you can see the ocean sun set and rise you and your kids are more important take your kids out do father and kids stuff together when you have your kids over camping hiking walks around town lunch movies
@BrightRedFlower2322
how old is your daugther and why dose your ex keep bothering you?
it is going to take small steps for me to get out of the hole that i am in. i need to do things for me and make me happy.
it has been along time since i did that i am always doing for others. and never for myself.
i am relizing that things that i use to do i always put aside for others. and now i think those things need to be put first in my life.
among other things my mom died 3 years ago and that has taken it's toll. she was the only parent i had my dad died young. so now both
my parents are gone. sorry to dump all this on you.
@mrwabell
My daughter is 3 my ex won't leave me alone cause he thinks its a funny game he damaged my ribs and wrist and he rapped me treated me like a slave house and bedroom slave
That's great see you do have things that you always wanted to do this time its about you and your self those things don't push them away do them do what makes you happy always focus on yourself then others come you and your kids are important you only have to deal with your ex fiancée for awhile till she's out of the pictures forever as for your ex wife only few more years and the kids can see you and contact you without her around once there 18yrs old its up to them not her anymore the kids can see you live with you and talk to you as much as they want always focus on you and your inner self relax your mind and body with things that you enjoy doing make a list of things you want to do and do them one at a time each day please never be sorry I don't mind as long as its helping you and I'm here for you that's all that counts I'm glad to be here for you and I want you to let it all out :)
@BrightRedFlower2322
Wow married or not he does not have the right to force himself on you. Rape is Rape marriage does not allow him to force you to have sex and should be reported. And as far as him hurting you that is abuse. I say that because I grew up with a alcoholic father that was abusive to my mom an me and my sister. And I do not believe a man should ever hit a woman no matter what. Is he still hurting you physically?
You are right the ex-fiancée will be gone soon can hardly wait. Glad I learned before marriage. And I am not paying support. My ex-wife gets enough from me for the kids.
And my kids will have to make their own choices. And I will have to except their choice.
I think making a list is a good idea. And maybe doing 1 or two on the weekends. I work early in the morning and have my kids from 4-7 weekdays and every other weekend.
I am glad that you are hear to help I need a friend right now.
Are you sure you want me to let it all out?
I will if you will.
Take care of yourself and that little girl.
