how do i handle this breakup?
Today me and my boyfriend of four years broke up because he is very sick and needs to focus on his health, he said i stress him out to much. I'm having a hard time knowing if we are really done because we always break up and get back together. I really do not want to lose him he's the best thing to ever happen to me but unless i change i know that can't happen I'm just not sure how to change. When we first met it was over facebook and for safety reasons i was using a family members picture and i waited 4 months to tell him and then because i felt like i wasn't getting enough attention i lied about other guys and cheating and he took me back every time but because so much has happened he can't forgive me and idk how to help or change :(
I think the most important thing right now, is that you be there for him emotionally to helphim through whatever illness is in his body. Maybe in the process that could bring you two closer together on a friendship level. But in accordance to yourself, you may just need to take a breather and figure out what it is you need to improve on as a person.
It's really hard to know whether anything is permanent, because you can't really see into the future. Whether you are breaking up for real, or just taking a break to give him some time to focus on his health- you should really use this time to reflect. Think about the type of girlfriend you've been throughout your relationship, and think about how you could've been. If you really want him back, you have to show him that you do deserve him, accept your mistakes, and just be there for him when he's going through a tough time.
I'm in a really similar situation. If you want to talk I'm here. My boyfriend and I broke up last week so we could both work on our mental health seperate my. But we break up all the time nd get back together but we're really trying to make this break up last at least for a while. But who knows if we will ever get back together. And I have been with other guys too when we have been on breaks and it has hurt our relationship.I'm here for you
I'm a female who was dating/in love withanother female. She happens to be a listener on this site. We broke up about two weeks ago. I honestly feel sick to my stomach. Everything hurts so much. I want her back. Everybody I know tells me she'll come back, but we haven't talked since two days after the breakup. I really miss her. We didn't break up because of a loss of love for one another. We broke up because of distance and stress. I don't know what to do. I want totalk to her so bad, but even if I message her she won't reply. Only because she said she needed space, which I respect that. Any advice? I'm lost just trying to find answers alone.
Hi Kitty. If im not mistaken, we are not supposed to be giving advice here, but I think you really should give her like a week or so. I know you miss her terribly but sometimes, spaces and silence helps. Maybe you could drop her not-so-pushy massages like wishing her good night and telling her not to forget her meal. Do not expect her to reply and do not beg her to reply. Give it sometime, maybe she'll come to her sense. This is just my experience though.
Every break up ruins our life in some part. All i can do is to tell you about something what i've invented. I recomend it to all my listeners. It works. So...everyone has some bad habbits/ugly parts of body etc. So make a list of such things (idk...too huge eyebrows,annoying laugh...)of your ex end everytime you will see your ex...focus on this list. After short time you will ask yourself "why i loved such person" this method works also if u feel ugly especially next to your stunning co worker/student. There was such girl at my uni. She was nice but i felt so ugly when she was next to me so i found ugly part in her (wasnt easy) she had giantinc bushy eyebrows (i have been alwas focusing on them and she started to be less beautiful and more average) in myself i found good thibgs (full lips nkce smile..) After 3 weeks i felt prettier than "stunning beauty" so...do it guys. It works.