hurting, and lonely after marriage breakdown

@elloworld

Hello there sweetheart,

Im going to start of by sending you warm hugs filled with much love and strength to help you through your day ❤️

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us today, and I'm ever so sorry to hear about your marriage breakup, this is a very difficult time for you as emotions and feelings are at an all time high, what I do admire about you, is the fact that you have found the strength to put yourself first, you have recognised your own needs, and have put an action plan in place so your recovery process can begin, and that my friend, is an incredibly brave step to make🙂

I do hope you can find support in real life to help you through this process, and of course, you have a whole community here at your dispense when you feel the need, so please, don't feel alone here, we are here for you, but remain strong dear, your going to be just fine once you adapt to your new beginning, in a funny sort of way, you can look at this as being an exciting new start, rediscovering yourself and making positive changes towards your further.

All the very best ❤️

@elloworld Hi there ( Hugs ) i understand how difficult this is for you, and am very very sorry you did go through this, but i won't hide that i smiled when i did read, that you want to learn more about yourself, but you're terrified, so take it from someone who have dealt with that for years, it is worth it, to explore yourself so much, that you will keep finding a lot of secrets about yourself along the way, and realize others, and you will find it quite satisifying, if you wish we can always talk, send me a message if am there i will respond instantly if not, i will ASAP, stay strong <3

@elloworld

I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through, but good job for recognizing it was important for your wellbeing to leave a situation that was emotionally abusive! I know exactly what you mean when you talk about the fear of being alone again. It's definitely a shock adjusting from being with someone to being single again. For the past few years I never really spent time getting back on my feet again and always found someone else to fill the void, but this time I'm actively choosing to be alone and really find myself again before getting into a relationship. It's been a difficult process moving forward as it's tempting to fill the void with someone else, but sometimes the best person to fill that void with is yourself :)

Rediscover yourself. Who are you outside of your relationship? What are some things you can focus on now without the stress and burden of an abusive relationship? I spent so long catering to my previous relationship that I didn't realize how much my sense of self was being eroded with every day that passed. My identity became blended with his, and things I used to stand up for, find interest in, or felt passionate about had dwindled down and became neglected. I've found myself falling back on those things again, and although it's been lonely at times, I know doing this will help me get back to the mindset where I can be in a place to give and offer things in a relationship. I don't want to get into a relationship because I'm afraid of being alone, I want to get into one because I feel I've found someone who's compatible and wants to build a life with me :) so for me, that's the mindset that's been carrying me forward, especially on difficult days.

@elloworld

I want to commend you on being so brave and leaving an emotionally abusive marriage. That takes true guts and strength, give yourself tons fo credit for that. With that being said, I am sending you big hugs because as you and I know it wasnt and isnt easy. You will go through a period of grieving and loss. You will feel lonely and may even doubt whether you did the right thing. All these feelings are a normal part of grief that is assocaited with any loss. Feel for feelings as they arise, cry as you need to, and reassure yourself that you are strong and mighty and that you will make it. At the end of the strom is a rainbow of new life waiting for you. This is a time to rediscover yourself and the you you have always dreamt of being.