post breakup
Hi,
I'm having a very hard time moving past my breakup. It has been 5-6 months since we broke up. Technically you could say we are still friends but this does not feel like the correct term, more like an aquaintance. I guess I'm in love with a woamn who I feel is not in love with me and I question if she was truely in love with me. Maybe its easier for some to move on. Anyways I would like to be happy and not be stuck but can't.
*woman
Can’t is a very strong word that possibly reflects your beliefs. If you think that you can’t get over her then your own brain is going to try and prove you right. I do agree that some people do move on more quickly than others but I believe that is due to their deepest beliefs that they can easily move on. After all I’m one of those people.
Thank you
We live in a world where we are expecting to be independent and to rebounce quickly after a break up. The one with less pain "wins the break up". This is ridiculous! The fact that moving on is hard for you shows how committed, loving and involved you were. It speaks of your true character. It shows that you will be such a great guy for the next woman who does live you. Take time to heal. Be kind to yourself. And by the way, staying friends with her might be the very reason why you are dragging the break up for a long time. Not seeing her for a few weeks would certainly help you. You need withdrawal, like a drug-addict, this doesn't make you weak. It's what your brain needs in order to heal.
Try to find distractions for yourself will help, although it will be hard because the memories and sadness will constantly coming back. But it’s worse if u never start changing. Cry when u need it, but try to distract yourself and talk to otherwise as often as possible please.
