someone help me please
so my girlfriend of three years broke up with me 3 weeks ago, she did it because of her friends they encouraged her to leave me so she can live the single party life with them so now she's doing coke, molly, shrooms, narcol, tramadol, vicodine, and it's fucking killing me because last week she came back intoo my life and we're trying to work things out but she hasn't spoken to me in two days because she's been at her friends house and she doesn't want them knowing about us trying to work things out. and i just feel like shit because i love her more than life its self and i can't immagin life without her just not talking to her in these two days is fucking hell for me i've never been this depressed in my life and don't get me wrong i'm okay with smoking weed but i just don't see all the other shit as okay, and it kills me to know that she's out there right now messed up on shit and i just wanna know what i could do or atleast have some one to talk to
Well I'm a girl and I can understand her going to her friends house. But she should choice her relationship over drugs and if not. I'm sorry to say this but I would back off her and let her do her. It's going to hurt. But it's going to hurt worst if you keep holding on to something that's not there.
the thing is these friends were out of her life and even bullyd her in school every day so bad that she had to switch class times i'd go pick her up every day after school and she would cry in my car telling me all the shit they did, but even when she forgave them i gave them all a chance but they didn't like the me i don't really see why i talked one of them through two similar break ups where the guys used her, and yet she sees me as the bad person, me and my ex were planning to get married and the whole life plan. the reason we decided to try to make things work again is because when i saw her she had her wrist cut and told me she hurt too and i just hated the sight of that and now i honestly can't move on like she promised to see me again before thursday but she hasn't talked to me at all and we've allready slept together again i stayed the night at her house and she stayed the night at mine and we talked about things and she asured me she only wanted me and told me not to wory about anything, but now it's like i need to like atleast talk to her i havn't seen her in a week tomorrow and we haven't spoken at all on the phone like i don't mean to be clingy but i just need re asuring that it's not ending because that's what she told me the last time i was with her
Man this girl probably did not have a reference in her family otherwise she would be strong and would not take drugs ans do on. Maybe you can become a reference for her. Somebody who gives the rules. Teach her that you cannot get in and out of situation as you liek, because life is not working like this. Tell her drugs will demand their toll one day, and she will not be able to escape to her "friends", she will not just run away. Be there for her and teach her how to grow up!
I agree with you @tealFriend1910. I am a female and I have never had a reference within my family. I was never taught nor have I ever seen what a real friendship or relationship is meant to be like, nor have I seen how to properly love someone, so I never knew what to expect or how to act....etc.. until I met my boyfriend. I wanted to learn how to be with someone and learn what a real relationship& friendship is meant to be like, so I asked him to teach me. It was the most scares thing I have ever done, because it was so new to me, I had to be vulnerable to someone who actually wanted to listen and he actually cared. Sometimes I had to take a break from him because my brain was shattered, he wasn't like everyone else, he wanted to help and when ever I wondered always from him, I somehow wondered back to him. He has been very patient, caring, persistent & strict(gives me rules on what not to do, but encourages me when I do something good) with me because I have many emotional scares and I'm stubborn.... but as I sit here and type this about him, I can confidently say that I have never experience a relationship like I have with him. I've learned so much, and I'm so grateful for him because he took out the time to teach something no one ever has. He pretty much taught me how to open up, be confident, stand up for myself and how to love.
In addition, she has to want to change and/or learn, otherwise it'll be like teaching a dead horse how to walk again...