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trying to recover from a breakup; tips and tricks?;(

User Profile: urfavgothbaddie
urfavgothbaddie March 6th, 2023

my ex and i just broke up and i truly feel like im falling apart. God is the only one keeping me together and here.

it hurts so bad, SO bad. I truly felt like he was the one and saw myself marrying that dude when he stabbed me in the back and did the very thing he promised he wouldn't do, which is leave. i have abandonment issues and he was very much aware of it and did the very thing that he knew would hurt me when things got just a little complicated, he chose to run and not deal with them. i'm so hurt.

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User Profile: toonlasagna
toonlasagna March 6th, 2023

@urfavgothbaddie Hey hun!

I'm going through something very similar right now. My former partner and I have been separated since September, and I genuinely believed that we were soul mates and we had plans to become engaged. Right now it's really hard. You're going to feel a lot of emotions, and right now, you just have to let those happen. Find the people close to you and confide in them. If he's willing, tell him how this has made you feel and maybe even try to talk things out and understand why. If you two don't have this kind of relationship to talk things out like this, then collect your favorite people and talk with them about how you're feeling.

I also have abandonment issues, so I know right now feels like you're alone and no one is there, but that feeling is temporary. Right now you're going to be at your weakest point, but with time, you will build yourself back up. It has been 6 months since my former partner and I broke up, and I still have days when I feel incredibly lonely. In those moments, I surround myself with things that I enjoy. I have animals that I love and they need me to take care of them, so they keep me strong and keep me going right now. Find that for yourself when you're feeling a little better. I hope this helps.

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User Profile: urfavgothbaddie
urfavgothbaddie OP March 6th, 2023

ugh you’re gonna make me cry, you’re so sweet and kind. thank you so much, that was truly helpful and i screenshoted it to re read whenever i need<3

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User Profile: spicySalamander
spicySalamander March 6th, 2023

@urfavgothbaddie


This is tough. I've been through something similar too :( You feel like everything they have ever said to you was a lie. How could they have said those things so carelessly? How can I believe anything else anyone says if they can just flip like a switch?
It was hard for me to get over, but I did. Things like this take a lot of time, but you learn how to find the support you need, which is really beautiful after you realize who is always with you. Like the person above me said, find the people in your life who love you. Let them support you. It's okay to feel this way. You can admit you're hurt, sad, betrayed. Work through it slowly. You can do it. Everyone here believes in you.
I found God in those times. You mentioned Him so I wanted to say that only the battles you can handle are given to you. There are also people out there who will treat you better. You deserve more than this. You can find what you need. Look ahead. I'm wishing you the best.
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User Profile: urfavgothbaddie
urfavgothbaddie OP March 6th, 2023

thank you🥺🥺💗

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