I need an advice please.
Hello. I've been in a relationship with a guy for 3 months. I fell in love with him and made lots of plans together. On Christmas day, he sent me a text saying that he is going back with his ex and our relationship is over. Since then, I tried to move on and be fine, but everytime I'm sure I forgot him, there are memories coming back. He hurt me soo bad, that I'm unable to be in another relationship at the moment. I'm not healed and I don't trust people anymore. I'm scared that the new person will do the same and leave me. I want to stop feeling so lonely and love again..... But something is stopping me.
It is perfecly understandable that you feel completely lost and alone after a break up. It's about the worst feeling in the world. I don't know how long you have been here at 7 Cups, but there are lots of spots to go to for support. There are self help guides on that topic, sub forums, meditations, chat rooms and listeners for one on one - and even professionals if you need therapy. . None of us are here to give "advice" but we do offer support and an ear to hear out your pain. I encourage to explore all the resources here and give yourself time to heal.
You probably don't need to think about starting a serious relationship right away. It's normal to want that intimacy back, but the healthy thing would be to allow time to heal, and I know that is hard. I would look for another outlet, maybe a hobby or group or class that you always wanted to try. Then you get to meet new people which can help give you some fresh perspective.
Treat yourself with loving kindness, we are here anytime you need to get it all off your shoulders, My best wishes for your best life to come.
@Yanix i understand it took me a while to find someone who i trust i am now dating someone whos nice and i known him for six years he is my best friend but were just testing the waters to see how it goes.
@Yanix It's okay you're still hurting. From the outside, it looks like you were the "rebound" relationship and that he went back to his ex really says more about him than it does about you.
It may not seem like that now, but this will be better for you in the end. He wasn't right for you.
