Need Advice on Boyfriend issue.
My boyfriend has been feeling that I make commitments without consulting with him first. I am not afraid of him saying no but even if I want to go to these event I always say, “Let me get back to you.”
He says even though I am talking to him about it I already made up my mind. My boyfriend is always ripping, running, and working on projects. He barely sees his friends never mind me or his son.
This is where the argument got heated. I explained that sometimes I don’t know he is going to his best friend’s house until he is the car. He felt hurt that I threw that in his face. I tried to tell him that I don’t care he goes to see his friend if he has the chance but I think I should know before he gets in the car.
He’s upset and hurt right now and told me that I messed and that is just the way I am as a person. I tried to talk to him calmly but he just shut me down.
Now, he says I don’t care what you do.
I need help in the two of us to get back on the same page. What am I missing? What did I do wrong?
@mbrito712
Just a handful of questions that popped into my head as I asked this. I'm not saying that my perspective is right, just questions based on my experience in relationships... Is it possible for you to make plans, and let him know these are your plans but he is free to join you
if he is available? Does he invite you to go with you, or ask before he goes to see his friend? Sometimes having separate plans is fine in a relationship. I don't know much about your relationship, but it's easy to get into patterns that turn into habits. Are you able to ask him how he would prefer that that two of you make plans in the future, while making it clear that you really want to do things with him? I wish you well.
