Help
My boyfriend of 3 years was cheating and got another woman pregnant. He told me it’s been bothering me ever since, hurt me to the core and much more. I left him, but I was also pregnant before her and I just had my child she still pregnant. Thing is he wants to be back together I love him a lot but I had to do what’s for me and mines. But he knows nothing not the same. He wants to learn me all over again so we can be a item again. But it’s so much betrayal. I don’t know what to do. Any advice would help. I never been in this type of situation before.
Hey Nisha you can call me Silver
First off I’ll start by saying I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through! I empathize with you I too know the pain of being cheated on. Well I don’t know for sure if my ex cheated while we were together but after 4 years of devotion to her she repays me by leaving me for another man so it’s basically the same thing as cheating in my eyes. That feeling of betrayal is gut wrenching, especially when your #1 person stabs you in the back. Id rather pull out my own teeth without Novacaine before having to feel the anguish of being cheated on again
Now my advice to you my friend is DO NOT get back with him! If he truly cared for you and your well being he would have never even thought about cheating on you! Bottom line! especially if you were already pregnant when he did this! You were together for 3 years so of course you still love him and apart of you always will there’s a corner of your heart that will always be his but it won’t hurt forever I know it’s hard to hold your ground and stay strong when your heart is involved if my ex called right now crying saying she made a mistake and want me back it’d be really hard for me to not say “ oh god please yes yes please come back!” But for myself and for yourself we need to say “no you had your chance and you blew it you made your bed now you must lie in it if you truly feel remorse for your betrayal then you’ll learn from this and if you lucky enough to find love again in the future I hope you remember this mistake and realize how special love is and to treat that partner with the respect they deserve, the respect I deserved”
right now you need to focus on yourself and healing your wounds and of course providing for your child and loving them to the fullest! Put your time and energy into developing your relationship with your baby I know this is a difficult time in your journey and there’s sure to be nights ahead of you where you cry yourself to sleep but this will pass and you will come out stronger and wiser with more self respect it’s okay to grieve but love and respect yourself by closing the chapter of your life that involves him as a lover he will certainly hurt you again if he could do this while you were carrying his child
I wish you peace and love
Namaste