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How to move on from perfection.

User Profile: Duckies
Duckies April 15th, 2018

Imagine you have had experience with long and short term relationships, or indeed experienced them. Finally the moment is there, you found 'the one', the one that makes you more than you, makes you feel complete in every way, even ways you couldn't have imagined. Your SO doesn't feel the same way and breaks it of and your world falls apart. You know you have to move on.

But how? You know you won't find anyone more compatible, so should you settle for less? Should you be with someone you feel less strongly about, just because it is mutual?

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User Profile: Booklover95
Booklover95 April 15th, 2018

@Duckies

got a bit confused here, is it the other party that doesn't feel the same way? Or is it you that doesn't because is mutual?

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User Profile: Duckies
Duckies OP April 15th, 2018

@Booklover95

In the breakup with 'the one' the other party breaks up with you.

The question is, after you know you have experienced a perfect partner for you that doesn't feel the same about you, should you settle with another party that is not perfect by all means, but where the feelings are at least mutual.

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User Profile: Booklover95
Booklover95 April 15th, 2018

@Duckies

Oh got it.

Well perfection doesn't exist. No matter how hard you try to look at it, it doesn't exist. later on you'll see their flaws.

So this said I would say that is a matter of "settle for less", is a matter of you having a realistic view on relationships.

Also perfection aside, if you really genuinly loved this new person this wouldn't come to mind, so I'm guessing the feelings aren't that mutual.

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User Profile: musokid
musokid April 15th, 2018

Perfection, or perceived perfection could be the reason it didn't work, more likely you weren't addressing things that needed dealing with - seeing everything through rose coloured glassed. Not to mention that we tend to forget the bad when we are reminiscing on these things and are driven to repair the relationship. Nothing is perfect