I need Advice .
so well today me & my bf were havina great convo until hes all like can i ask you a serious question i was like sure so he asked if i would choose him or my boy bestfriend i said honestly? he said yes i was like my bestfriend bc well theres a code for bestfriends yk? & he just got upset so i let him kuu down i called back 4 hours later because he has practice for 2 hours & i let the other 2 hours for him to cool down & so he kept hanging up eventually he posted something saying that someone once told him if she doesnt pick him that they never loved you ive been trying to call hes sorta texting me but now hes lagging again . what do i do ?
@trulydaisy Did you just bluntly say that you choose your best friend or did you explain why ? If you said it bluntly you should explain to him why and how. You should also put yourself in his shoes too. If you explained to him why and how, then maybe give him some time to think things through, but maybe occasionaly check up on him to see how he's going. But it all depends on how much you love him. If you are willing to let go of your best friend over him or keep your friendship and maybe stay friends with your boyfriend. I don't know if this helped, but I wish you the best of luck in this dilemma.
i explained to him after i chose but the thing is when i told my bestfriend everything he said he would
@trulydaisy It could be jealousy. I've heard before that if it's someones first relationship they might have a few expectations, by example here, I think your boyfreind expected that you would choose him over your bestfriend so that's why he is probably jealous. I suggest that you tell him that you have other people you care about and that you can't always give your love to him only. People are different, some would choose family over friends and others the opposite, some would prefer a job that's really good but not fun and others the opposite and some would put their friendship with another over their relationship with their lover. Maybe leave him some time to think for himself, reasure him if needed. Tell him that you still hold him dearly, but he can't be first. It's my first time dealing with this type of thing so I'm sorry if the result isn't the one you'd expect, but I wish you the best of luck in resolving this problem.
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Not sure if I understood, but is your best friend a guy aswell?
yes. @Booklover95
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In that case the situation makes more sense. To you he's a normal friend, but imagine this: your boyfriend with an attractive female friend, and he tells you he chooses her.
He probably felt betrayed and saw your answer as you potencially dating your best friend. Not saying he's right ! But I can see why he got hurt :/