I need some help dealing with this.

@EpicSignal

Hi , I am just a friend just got to 7 cups today, can we be friends to share our problems ?

I’ll give a quick run down of my situation. I liked this girl who let’s call butterfly. We were friends for a while and we started to build a really good connection. We would always help each other with our assignments because we have a few of the same classes and we were super alike. So I went for it and and asked her out.

She also felt the same way, so we started dating. Things were going great for at least a week before she sent me a message saying she wasn’t ready for a relationship. I was confused and really sad. At the end of the school week we talked it out and she told me that she thought she liked me but she sometimes felt “forced.” She said that she might like girls instead of guys. We hugged and I told her that it was all fine and that I just wanted an explanation.

Things were going well for like a few weeks between us until the last week or so. She wouldn’t respond to my jokes that well and seemed much more comfortable with others. I noticed that she was a little bit hesitant around me and that she was all tensed up. Her voice was all high pitched and stuff. So I asked her if she was okay (I usually do this). She said she was like usual.

But today I am starting to rethink things. It was at play auditions for my school. I went to talk to butterfly and she was still extremely hesitant. She seemed different. We were practicing a few of our lines and she suddenly looked like she might cry and she walked off. A few of my and also her friends went over to comfort her. I talked to one of them and they said that “there are other forms of affection other than psychical” and “there are other forms of connections that aren’t romantic.” Butterfly is not that responsive to physical gestures for information.

Problem is that I still like her. We still have a few of the same classes and we might be in a school play together soon. I want to get over these feelings, but I don’t know the steps to take to get over this. Not to mention that my negative thoughts keep getting in the way of myself. I think I rely too heavily on other’s input and sometimes I base my mood off of their mood. What steps can I take to and get through these feelings so she feels comfortable and safe around me again. I want to be able work together on assignments and hang out again.

Thanks for reading this.