Am I over thinking everything? Help please and thank you ♥
Heya everyone! I hope you're all doing well today. I could really use some advice and insight on this situation.
I've been dating this guy for over a year now and pretty early in the relationship we kind of established that we werent into the rapid texting thing since we're both so busy and he works very odd hour shifts. However, we still kept a decent line of communication everyday until recently. I brought it up one day and he laughed it off and said its because he's tired which I understood because he can sleep for an entire day if you let him. But I feel communication has gotten worse and now it takes an entire day for him to respond to just one of my massages and the messages are usually short.
On top of this when I visited him one night a week ago I accidently over heard him speaking with a women that I know wasn't his mom. I'm trying not to assume the worst... But my paranoia and trauma from past relationships won't let me live lol.
Also, on top of that, I was sick recently for 3 days and couldn't text him. He did not check in on me once lol. I'm not sure if I'm just being anxious and blowing things out of proportion but I would truly appreciate any advice on how I should I approach this situation.
Thank you for your time and care reading this in advance ♥
Thank you for taking the time to share your story with us!
I know it must be hard for you not to think of the worst possible situations given your past experiences with relationships. As in any relationship, overthinking is expected and okay to do, but you must not let it cloud your judgment. The basis of any relationship should be strong and consistent communication. Communicating with each other on how you feel about the other person, what they do, etc. While we shouldn't be making excuses for him not checking up on you while you were sick, we don't know what is going on in his life. Would it be possible for you to check-in with him and see how things are going and if he's willing to have a conversation with to on how you can continue to go forward in the relationship? That may be worth a try.
