Are they controlling or am I a crybaby?
Hi from and on again off again situationship,
This partner is critical of my actions often and has things he won’t “allow”. Like me being a bartender or not liking my work uniform as a cocktail waitress ( it’s skimpy ). His rationalization is I’m not being true to myself.
I recently started working a sales job, and I was talking how I went out to find potential customers on the floor. He was so critical of me and this tactic.
He said I didn’t know how to read people and I was taking advantage of them.
When I asked him why he brought this up, and that it was pattern ( ei paragraph 1) he said that I should understand why
It was wrong, I asked for further explanation. He said “ you should know why, I don’t need to explain it.”
As I type this, I’m seeing how toxic this kind of behavior is.
any advice? Or words of comfort as I figure out how to get away from this ?
@cyanPrune1179
Your feelings about his behaviour are absolutely valid. What you described shows that he is not respecting you or your work.
It sounds like you have already decided to get away from this relationship and are figuring out how best to do so.
As you talk things through and think them over, sometimes it can help make them clearer in our own mind too. Please feel free to share or vent. You are heard.
Much strength to you!
@cyanPrune1179
It's called gaslighting 😓. Run is my only suggestion. I learned the hard way... know your worth. You got this
@cyanPrune1179,
someone who loves you accepts you as is.
He doesn't. He seems to try to shape you in someone you are not.
That is definitely not love.
You deserve true genuine love. Better.