Autistic Female am in an LDR relationship with my boyfriend and want to make it work.
Here's information/background about my relationship. Tomorrow is our 2 month anniversary of making it official. I met my LDR boyfriend online in early October of last year. We've never met in real life so far. Everything was great in the beginning of getting to know each other. Thing is, he bought me a sex toy 2 weeks after meeting each other online. I thought nothing of it and was flattered, actually. He showered me with tons of attention for about 2 months, which I liked a lot.
One thing that I thought was odd was he only wanted me to please him and no one else online before we went out, and that was about 1 1/2 month before we made it official. He wanted me to treat him like a boyfriend. He didn't want me to talk to other guys before we made it official, and he still doesn't want me to talk to guys. One night about 2 weeks ago we went back and forth for hours just because I talked to a guy for one hour on ***.
After we made it official on December 3rd he showered me with nice gifts. I didn't want them because I was fine with what I got, but I went along with it. He wouldn't take no for an answer. Everything was going fine until after Christmas. He was upset I didn't get him anything, which is understandable, but I was broke at the time and had to wait to get my check. I asked him what he wanted and he said to be creative. I didn't know what to get him, so I sent him money last month to make it up to him. He said it was hard to make ends meet since he didn't have much money. He's on disability like myself, and doesn't have a job. BUT when I told him the other day that my older brother was in dire straights he said he has access to a lot of money. I don't know if he had access to a lot of money when I sent him money.
We used to have phone sex a lot in the beginning of knowing each other, and it's a rarity now. Now we only have it once every 3 weeks or so. We don't talk on the phone at all unless it's after we have phone sex. We never video chatted. I've sent him a couple of videos of me thanking him for the gifts he's got me. I asked him when will he send me a video of him, and he said sometime and he never sent me a video at all. I found out he's sent me old pics of himself when I first met him by finding an updated picture of him on ***. He looks nothing like the pics he's sent me. He's balding and has gained a little weight. Speaking of weight, he's asked me about my weight and I didn't want to say, but I told him I wanted to lose 80lbs. This morning he told me he'll wait until I lose the weight.
We were friends on *** until he dumped me the first time, and that was about 3 weeks ago. He hasn't added me back. I checked to see his marital status a couple of days ago, and it's hidden now.
He's been very hypocritical, rude, and has been very distant more than ever. There were many times where he's gone hours without texting me(2 times it was almost a day, and that was last week). I went almost a day without texting him the other day because I was tired, and he said I didn't give a crap. I told him that if I didn't I woulda left a long time ago when he started to go for hours without texting me. He never tells me what's going on. He keeps saying that I am mean whenever I want some space from him because of the crap he pulls. I would give him a heads up every time I want space, and yet he goes for many hours without texting me without a heads up. Also, lately he stops texting right in the middle of our conversations and goes about 15-19 hours without texting me. He either continues on with the conservation or changes the topic when he texts me back or greet me like nothing happened. I find it very hypocritical and rude.
I'm afraid to disappoint him or to make him mad if I confront him about what's been going on. I am scared to get dumped again, and that's why I am afraid. I keep hoping things will change for the better. I really don't want to let him go. It's scary to let him go because I'm so used to knowing him for 4 months. I want to make things work. How do I handle this?
@charmingKite1508
I'm sorry, but what are you gaining from this relationship?
He is not telling you that truth, if he's not sending you video calls.
He's a user.
Taking money.
What right does he have to tell you who to talk to?
Or to lose weight?
And why bombard you with sexy phone calls and toys , but only when it suits him.
This is not a relationship.
He is getting his kicks and that's it.
You deserve someone you don't have to walk on eggshells around.
Who you meet in person.
Spend time with.
See their actual face.
Know they are being honest.
You deserve so much better.
He doesn't deserve one second of your time.
You deserve to be happy.
He's not that 💚
