Boyfriend Broke up with me and would like to win him back. Advice please....
My most recent boyfriend Garrett broke up with me over the phone a couple days ago and I am devastated. The breakup was not expected and neither of us did anything bad like had an affair. Just the morning of the day Garrett broke up with me, he was calling me pet names like, "beautiful," and, "sweetie." Then, Garrett spilled the beans that he was breaking up with me because he doesn't think we are compatible, he's worried about hurting me more, and that he thinks I can find better. I am so crushed because I still really want to work on things. I know that I cannot control other people but this hurts. He comes to pick up his things at my place in a few days when he gets back from visiting his family. This is a hard pill to swallow. I would really like to try and win Garrett back and I know what not to do (beg, plead, contact him excessively, etc....). Just would appreciate some advice.
@alwayshope1945
I'm so sorry break ups are hard and they always feel worse when we aren't expecting them.
If he is open to sharing more about why you both aren't compatible and his thoughts/feelings about your willingness to help work on whatever it is then I think having the conversation isn't a bad idea.
But you have to be prepared to hear what you may not want to hear and that is usually the hardest part especially when we want to still make things work.
If he isn't open to having any further conversations about it then I'd say leave it alone and respect his decision and let him decide if he wants to be friends in the future or not. Every situation is different though so I can only share what I've learned from my own experiences with break ups and having to end a relationship myself. whatever happens with your situation just remember that as hard as break ups are they shouldn't define us because even if we aren't the right person for someone , there is still someone whom we are right for. anyway Hope this helps