Cheating bf
My bf just told me he cheated on me. He told me the next day. My trust has been lost but for some reason I still want to try work things out. He wants a break to figure out what he wants to do in regards of work and if he wants to keep me in his life. The silence is killing me and idk if I have the right to make him decide right aways if he wants me in this future. Should I let him have his space or do I contact him?
For me it’s on you. What do you want? From what I see, you are giving up your power as someone with autonomy in your life.
If you want him to give answer right away, tell him that. If you think you are okay with him keeping you like an option, that let him take his time thinking about it. You are still his gf, for me you have that right to ask for answer. Or at least, give him a specific time like a week or two for him to give you the clear answer. Then you can just move on with life or correct what you two needs in the relationship.
I’m actually quite furious reading about this because I think what he did to you is plain cruel. To just leave you with no words or nothing, if I were you I’d be wondering did he still love me, why he did this to me, did I do anything wrong? If I did wrong then tell me. Don’t just be quiet. It’s really eating me inside. You don’t deserve to be treated this way. Plus he even cheated on you. I don’t know his side of story but whatever it is, leaving someone hanging is not right.
Sending you love and hugs xoxo
Aww thank you, I caved and made him call me. He does want to stay together but still wants a break cause he feels guilty and needs to sort stuff out which okay I'll let him do that. I also told him that he wants me he has to change. I'm finding it hard cause he works with her and I don't know if he'll respect my wishes of not having any personal contact with her, if he doesn't I'll force myself to end things.
I just can't believe that we've been dating years where we were each others first for everything and now he shares it with someone else.