Conflicted
I've been with my s/o for about 2 years now. It's an interracial relationship and we'd never really discussed race a lot in the beginning but then the pandemic and the protests happened and it just.. feels like race is a war zone. I'm so conflicted cause I don't think he's racist but sometimes it seems like he's only with me either because he's afraid of being alone or because he just wants to bone.. I don't know.
@lavenderDrum3457 Oof sorry you are struggling with this. If he is only in it to bone or not be alone then it sounds like not a very healthy relationship regardless, although I am not sure if that's just your anxiety since he has been with for two years so probably he does care about you to be invested for that long...Have your tried talking to him before about things you like in relationships, love languages, that kind of thing?
Having conversations around tough controversial topics is hard...Maybe watching tv/movies/comedians that discuss race could help ease into those conversations? That's what I've done with family members.
Yeah we've talked about things. You're right, it's probably anxiety and Im just overthinking things. I've also bought books such as white fragility and so you want to discuss race so I think we're going to read those together.
